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Not sure where o ask this - Anxiety and how it relates to thinking and ADD

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I am new to this forum - have seen Melissa at a talk in Toronto recently and my wife having suggested I read the book, and  I am diagnosed Add.  I recently threw a bombshell into my married life and incredibly, my wife still wants to work on things.  My biggest problem seems to be a maladaptive coping strategy of avoidance.  I have been to see too many different therapists jumping around due to finance issues (looking for quick fix) but there are some things I learned that ring true.

Yup, Nope, OK.

I have a journal that goes back decades.  One day, when my son was about 11 years old after our older son moved to college, I wrote, "We seem to have stopped being able to communicate as a family.  No one talks anymore.  They seem so far away and not willing to make any effort to talk with me. I feel alone. It is a heartache.  I don't know what is going wrong. Maybe it is just getting through the 'teen years' "  From both of them (DH and DS) I got,  "Yup.  Nope. OK."  And that is about it FOR YEARS!!! I remember my son was always in to his computer until all hours of the night.

Just found out about how ADHD can affect our relationship

I have been together with my fiance for over 3 years now.  My fiance has ADHD and we both have known about it, but it has never been treated.  His parents never tried to treat it when the doctor diagnosed him as a child.  He told me from the beginning that he had ADHD, but I never thought that it could affect our life or relationship.  I found out last month that he was pursuing other women online and it frustrated me.  I felt so hurt and betrayed.  It started off as him looking at half naked women on facebook, then a secret world on twitter full of porn and conversations with these women. 

Another Friday.. Screwed Up.....I need support any other spouses feel like yet another weekend ruined!?!?

I don't know how much longer I can do this. I don't wanna lose him, as a person, his heart, our memories, the time I invested, the future I can sometimes see. But I need to look out for myself and I don't want to be 10 years ahead wishing I had put myself first and ended it when I needed to.

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