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So I had a bad day kindof  with dizzy spells and contractions, to the point I had to have hubby pick me up, couldn't even drive home safely.  Once home I quickly prepare some dinner and get my daughter ready for bed.  Meanwhile Tim says he needs to run out to a store real quick and he'll be home for dinner.  1 hour, 2 hours pass me and munchkin eat and are in bed.  He calls to say he's now over a friends house and will be home shortly.  I"m thinking whatever, coz I know the drill... giving times and intentions is pointless, he'll be home when he gets home.

I only recently had the epiphany(thanks to this site and some others)  that all my husband's bizarre ways of thinking and doing things are down to his ADD.  He always said he had a little ADD-- but I did not understand Adult ADD well enough to realize the profound effect it can have on interpersonal relationships.

I have talked him into getting evaluated and hopefully treated. (He doesn't think the ADD is a big deal).

im involved with a younger guy who is mellow, non hyper but also very ADD. he's told me he's add and it shows very clearly in his inabilty to read social cues, subtlies in verbal exchange or anything that isnt very clear, simple, black and white. he misinterprets information alot and he often doesnt provide the base information to me so i know whats going on in his heart or inside of him. he gets into work projects and will miss a date, not call, not even register that he had plans with me. he will make plans, then leave me in the middle of them becasue he committed to helping someone.

Hi there,

My husband is quite certain he has ADD. His family physician is quite certain as well. And I am absolutely certain!

My husband considers going through the diagnosis process and beginning treatment but then does not. I am not completely sure why. I believe it is a mix of feeling like he knows already so why bother, and maybe some fear about losing the good parts of the ADD if he takes medication. 

Is it me or do others see a common similarity that those with ADD seem to use humor more often than non ADDers?  My DH uses humor and prides himself on his humor and "personality".  I don't find him humorous anymore because of all the disappointing and crazy-making stuff he does and doesn't do. I don't feel safe to be care-free and jokey when I am with him. I used to be very funny and witty myself. I miss that person I was.  I don't like the person who I have become.  Anyway, I am going to try to be extremely funny this week.  Just enjoy myself.  See what happens.

I joined last night and have been reading soooo many posts and blogs.  I see clear areas where I can improve in relating to my husband, like validating him and staying calm and being understanding.  The problem I'm having is that I have so much residual anger and impatience and frustration with his behavior that I am finding it an uphill battle to reign in the irritated speech and overall disgust that I feel is spilling out from the moment he walks into the room. 

Hi everyone,

I've been struggling for years with my husband's constant criticism. I'm wondering if it's related to his ADHD.

I posted earlier today describing my husband (http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/i-hope-hell-agree-take-meds)

husband blames me when major problems arise due to his lazy irresponsible thinking. I work hard at everything i do think plan ahead and he is comfortable  with things going down hill just gives me no rest because i am sweating my ass off doing his job mine and trying to stay focused. When he does not do his part I do my best to add the many task that he should be doing to my busy schedule's. I work from home and support us entirely if I cant make a bill my mother assists, we have 3 children and a nice house with a large backyard that not long ago was,beautiful now it's a shit yard.

Well.. I've been with this guy for 16 years, married for 15 (our anniversary was last week-- he forgot, just like he forgot my last birthday).

He is a very sweet, generous, open person but he drives me nuts.  I am tired of having to manage everything and it feels like he is an obstacle I have to climb over just to proceed with life.  He's kept a good job for many years, which is great but its hard to see how he functions at work considering how he is at home.