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I am doing much better I must say with my "emotions" regarding my ADHD spouse,but sometimes he still hurt's my feelings very bad,but,as the days go by and the months follow through, I am also scared,very scared that all my efforts will come to an end in separation one day.What to do?

I got into a relationship with a wonderful woman almost 3 years ago.  It was amazing, she was my soulmate.  She was understanding, sweet, impulsive, up for anything, and I thought just beautiful.  It was a romance that could not be replicated.  The sex?  Forget it.  The best ever.  Never more connected with a person.  It was like that for about a year and a half when all of a sudden in the beginning of last year she got a new job and was learning how to become a personal trainer (not at all related to her job field, but something she wanted to do).

Thank you.

A CONSTANT struggle for me when having a discussion with my husband is to quickly just tell him "one more thing" or try/want to explain my position better so that he "gets it."

Example: we have an argument about something and I tell him I need to pause and "think about it." (A tool that I need because I can't process quickly). A few minutes later, he hears me typing away on my computer and says:

So, I've touched on this a bit in responding to others.

One thing I'll reiterate is that if this wasn't an anonymous forum I doubt I could even brave talking about it.

I'm feeling extremely anxious. I'm guessing some of the wives in similar situations will relate.

Others would laugh at what I'm about to say next.

I am completely anxious and fearful. My husband and I had the rarity of sex four times last week. That truly never happens. I don't even remember when it happened last. I just know what comes next...

What to expect from DH this weekend,well it's simple to say LOOK OUT!!! big fights coming!!!!,should I stay into the comforts of my own home and be missing him? or should I go and just learn how to handle it maturely? well a few weeks ago I would have gone at DH apartment without even thinking this through,but now I know different, I am thinking it through and still very Happy to share the long weekend with him!Opps!!!!! LOOK OUT! the mood swings!!  the tantrums,fights,accusations,hell the "blame game" what to do?

As I read all the stories on here I see my husband in so many of them. The last year with him has been horrible. This all makes me so sad not only for us, but for him...I am so overwhelmed...where is my Munkey I married? I miss him.........

okay I have been doing a lot of researches and then I came up with my own strategy in dealing with the man I love soo very much "BUT" to not let his ADHD affect "me" mentally,physically,emotionally and so on, also,I really would like to use the terms "US" but really if you dig deeper in to the minds of an ADHD person "US" is never really there,just "you",firstly let me say this post is to help "both" ADHD and non- ADHD on this forum.

strategy:

1)continue to live one day "as they say",at a time (sweet Jesus),and never let your guard down.

Just got the book today and saw the percentage in it.... 24-35%. Oh my, was my first thought, as though I worked in special ed for nearly ten years, I had thought it was actually more rare than this as a coexisting condition. I also thought it very related to criminal behavior.

I have suspected ODD with my stepson, but been afraid to actually bring it up with my husband.

Moreover, my husband does all the same stuff the boy does.

I don't know where to begin...Considering I have read many, many forums about having a significant other with ADHD, and believe me, mine has a severe case. Although he has not been diagnosed, his ADHD is tearing our relationship into shreds.