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My husband was very sick about 6 years ago,he has ADHD and was not sure what he had at the time,BUT,when the economy was falling and he was about to lose his house,boat,cars "everything"he fell very ill with mental and physical exhaustion,and he was not eating,sleeping,he could not work and do anything,he got symptoms of bad bad depressions,heart palpitation's,and he thought he was going to die.I was not with him at the time that was when he was even going through his first divorce,and the kids mother also took him out financially "big time" which caused a huge financial problem,resulting i

“Love does not exist, only demonstrations of love.”

Jean Cocteau

I find myself still so frustrated with the breakup of my almost 3 year relationship with my ex-boyfriend.  My logical non-ADD mind tells me I cannot control another, let alone a man with ADD, but damn if the heart just won't follow.  Our first year was great and his creative, adventurous, and child-like sides were all so charming.  He was oh so opposite to me in many ways as I am a type-a, uber organized structured person.  I just also happen to have a wild side that he fit right in with.   At first I enjoyed doing so much for him, and he was always appreciative, but as time grew on and pro

My DH is the work work work freak,and I love that he says it builds his self esteem, but, he is taking on a little more than he thinks he could handle,he cannot even complete the first job that he started a month ago, got paid "big" already, and now he is on to the third one,I am the second of these 3 jobs he has going on and it's heavy,,, (and on top of that he is working at a company for someone else),,,.Meaning,he has dropped 2 car transmission's on the ground to fix,one of which is mines, and now just today he took on a next job without having finished the first two,and he is the only o

My diagnosis was almost 3 years ago at the age of 43. I have apologized for my actions, I always take my meds, I'm working on correcting poor coping skills, I read a lot about my condition, I post to learn more and hopefully help a few others along the way. My DD#1, recently diagnosed with ADD caught me by surprise, but it all made sense when I started putting all the pieces together. My wife has pretty much discounted ADD from the very beginning of my own diagnosis. She thinks there is ADD, but the symptoms are things everyone feels.

My husband was very supportive for 3 days,he was very willing for me to read "Melissa's" book to him and I did,I pointed out all the great things at first like the part where "things I love about my ADHD husband" and the "hyper focus courtship" and a lot more,he was very fascinated, and wanted me to read more,so I continued ,but, over a period of 3 days.He can't all at once, take it in, so I had to read it in pieces and he was in shock!

My spouse, who has ADHD, spends four days a week out of town assisting his elderly parents.  Thus, I'm home alone (except for the dog) four days a week.  We have two grown children, both in college; this is my younger daughter's first year away.  So being all alone like this is really a big change for me.  I don't mind spending some time alone, but I do get lonely eventually and my husband, despite my repeated requests, has not gotten into a pattern of texting or calling me when he is away every week.  I feel dead or invisible.

I am pretty active on this site today--haven't been able to get time like this for a while. Here is my question: 

How do you handle a conflict when you have young children who are around, or even in the room? 

Sounds almost ridiculous, so to be more specific, how do I handle it when my husband does something that I find unacceptable or unhealthy or unkind, in front of our children? 

Example: 

I wanted to throw out some thoughts I had about all this info we see about adhd and it's effects on adults / relationships, life and work.  Has anyone on this site made the connection between Alcoholism /  the hereditary nature of Alcohol abuse and adhd and the complex woven fabric of family upbringing and current behavior of ADHD individuals that might be more related to the actual effects of parental alcoholism than the adhd disorder itself?  That might have been confusing, so let me break it down.

My husband of 3 years has ADHD. It negatively impacts his quality of life and our marriage. He has no interest in taking medicine or otherwise managing his ADHD because that would be the same as admitting that there's something wrong with him. He claims to like "how his brain works" (I struggled with moderate to severe depression for about 15 years before getting treated so I do understand where he's coming from.) I can appreciate that he likes being him and I want to support him; however, our marriage and lives are falling apart because of this.