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My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half, we have a 4month old daughter and while I knew my husband was adhd when we got married his true 'teenage ways' did not roar their ugly head until i found out i was pregnant (and this was a surprise since my husband told me he couldnt have kids.. and that is another story in itself as he lies to get what he wants frequently)

my nag list as i like to call it because i HATE nagging but thats all i feel i do anymore.

You'll have to forgive me if someone else has posted about this, I however am new and desperate. I have noticed reoccurring problems with my wife and I. She has worked so hard to fix them on her end, and I kept feeling as though she was doing nothing. It kept happening over and over again, and I kept nagging. Then I finally realized the problem is not with her, it's me.

I have been married for 3 years and I love my wife lot  but  My wife height 6.5
And weight 220 lbs While I height 5.6 and weight 120 lbs

I am unfortunately unable to lift and carry my wife and I feel embarrassed sometimes when I'm in the market or a restaurant or nightclub
I feel ridiculous and strange stares from people has become my mental ill

My relationship with my ADHD husband is very hard..we love each other very much but I don't think I could carry on for to much longer. It's getting very hard,he is very weird at times, I cannot seem to keep him under control with this terrible disorder.He knows he's not well, and now it's becoming a joke for him when we both know it's a serious matter and if we don't take that into serious consideration, we would lose each other.I don't want to lose him to some DISORDER!

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I'm sorry for wasting time ._.

Is it typical for people with ADD to not accept responsibility for what they have done? Is it typical for them to not see the toll it is taking on their loved ones?  

Can anyone relate to this?  I feel as though I am living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!!  Younger folks might know what that term means, and of course, if you know the story, I am being a bit extreme since my ADHD husband is not a homicidal maniac as was Mr. Hyde.  But my point is that it is like I wake up to a different person every morning.  One morning he will be mild mannered and sweet and the next morning, or sometimes by the afternoon he is sullen, angry and hostile.

Does anyone have any tips on how to keep a home functional when the ADD partner is home. All his home duties are is to maintain the yard and clean up his mess after him. Too much to ask for i think.

* I would complain about the yard and he would decide he would start mowing the lawn at 9pm (at night) mind you he would not complete this and leave it in a worser state than it already was and un completed. We are renting and i dont want to loose our home cause part of the agreement was to have the yard maintained

* Doors/cupboards constantly left open

I feel completely bashed verbally after last night.  I really tried to listen and hear without becoming defensive when my ADHD husband began to recount all of my failures of the past year.  I in fact did not defend myself, which may be why I feel so beat up this morning.  I apologized - yet again - for ways that my behavior had been emasculating in the past year.  He has only been actually diagnosed for about six months - we have been married for nearly 30 years.  I tried to explain as best I could that we could not just break patterns that had gone on between us 30 years overnight - that i