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My boyfriend and I of 7 years are taking a break. He (John) has move out for 6 months. He has ADHD and I've always known it. He took medication in the beginning, but hasn't for the past few years.  I never thought about it in terms of effecting our relationship. I never took ADHD seriously. Honestly, I thought "Oh ADD... everyone has that." However, now that we are trying to decide if we should stay together and work on this relationship or break up, I started doing research about some of our problems.

I'm pretty sure my marriage ended tonight.  After 19 years together and married 10 of those with two boys (8 & 3-8 yr old has ADHD), we are at the end.  I have finally found out about adult ADHD by reading books and going to the CHADD meetings and listening to the stories...I have to say it sounds like us.  My husband is ready to leave the marriage because he is tired of not having any physical contact with me.  And while I understand this for him and myself, the reason for not being intimate with my husband are numerous.  Once I started reading about adult ADHD, I saw so many things th

I have finished reading "The ADHD Effects on Marriage".  What a surprise!!!  My spouse decided to read it too!!!  Funny he decided we should jump to step six.  I am thinking we need to go thru all six steps.  He was gracious enough to tell me i might need to get someone to help with my depression.  While he decided to let work interfere with him getting in contact with his doctor to get his prescription for his ADHD.  So he has been off of his ADHD medication for a number of weeks.  He does not want to find out why i am depressed.  I had hoped that him reading the book would be an eye openi

Let me say, first and foremost.  I love my wife.  I love her with all my heart, and I would go to the ends of the earth and do anything physically possible for her.  I am attracted to her in every way.  She is everything an ADDer like me would be attracted to, plus sooooo much more.  She is my "distraction" most of the time.  I have to try not to daydream about her during my work days and projects.  I really could make a whole page of the things I love about her...  but with all that...  I am unable to make her happy.

It's like a light JUST turned on! I was taking my morning medicine, looking around at the chaos I create and realized I do have ADD! 

Looking around I  KNEW I needed to find support, need to find a doctor that understands ADD.

Yes, I went to the special room through out grade school, middle school and high school. Yes, a real doctor (psychiatrist) diagnosed me in 2006.  Yes, many doctors diagnosed me as depressed for many years.  I am probably depressed because because I get so overwhelmed at the little things. 

So, here I am. Here's hoping I can follow through.

I am so grateful to you that you have accepted this process of looking at yourself, and accepting this diagnosis of ADD.

I am so grateful to you that you so whole heartedly want to make these positive changes so that we can stay married.

I am sorry for all the times I have focused on the negative and not the positive.

I am sorry for not being able to truly understand what it's like inside your head.

I am sorry for all the times I've told you I felt like you weren't trying, when you honestly were.

My husband and I have been married a year and a half. Only last summer did we realize he has adult ADD. I've always been frustrated with him about not waking up on time for work and school, not remembering things I have told him to do. Never doing things unless I do tell him (he can't see the kitchen is messy and pick it up) Not remembering things I've told him (Like then I tell him I have an appointment Tuesday and on Tuesday he asks where I am...) Until we found out he had ADD I really just thought he was lazy and thoughtless. Since his diagnosis he is on Ritalin twice a day.

My Husband and I have been together 5 years and married for 3.  We have one son and a baby on the way.  I am the breadwinner in the family as I have my masters degree and all the attempts  my husband has made to go to college have ended because he needed me to monitor and support him in his classes too much - I often ended up finishing the classes for him - online classes.  He works in telecommunications and is pretty good at it and this year we moved to Alaska and he started a new position and decided he needed meds to help him with focus.  He is on meds for the first time in over 15 years

Is this ADD? 

Hi everyone: Don't know where to start but I'll do my best to keep the backstory short. I'm non-ADHD spouse in 7th year of marriage. I married him for all the wrong reasons. The co-dependant, low self esteem part of my fell in love with the the over the top 2 year courtship never stopping once to think that anything was wrong. Yes, he played some video games. Yes, he had trouble keeping things organized but I was there to help him with all of that and the level of adoration, commitment, love, sex, romance that I got in return seemed like a great payoff.