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I need to really vent (scream?!) here, so I hope what I'm saying makes sense.  I guess I really need to know if I'm losing my mind here, or if I have a real problem on my hands.  My husband and I are 55 years old, we've been married 20 years, second marriage for both of us, and up to the 15 year point, it was a wonderful marriage.  He was diagnosed with ADHD about three years ago.  I've lived through his having an affair, his cancer diagnosis, not being able to count on him for anything, his focus on everything else but me, his need to control, and his erratic attention span.  And the only

So, at this point my husband and I are doing well with his ADHD however, I have been beginning to notice a pattern.

Hi folks, I have been a lurker on this website for a while as was my ex gf.. now with current girlfriend for 4 months and my ADHD is starting to show in front of her. I have always been upfront and honest about my difficulty struggling with impulse control  as well as the lack of the concept of stopping and thinking before I react sometimes. Anyway, I got us tickets for a few events that I thought she would enjoy going to with me and instead  a lot of problems occurred.

I have just discovered this site and I hope it will help. My husband has adhd and I have lost all hope that I can manage our marriage any longer. I have just started reading Melissa's book and I feel like it is the story of my life! 

I have become someone I hate. I'm angry and hateful all of the time. I have 2 kids and I want this to workout. I know he is a good man but I've grown to resent him so much. I don't know how to make him see how i feel. He just thinks that I'm an awful bitch.

I am new to the world of dating someone with ADHD. I've been with my partner for 6 months, and unlike many of the stories here - I don't feel the hyperfocusing. We both seem to lead independent lives while being together, and maybe that's why. If anything, I wonder why he doesn't want to hyperfocus on me (like I've read in all the stories throughout this site).

I posted this on one of the blogs on this site but then realized that nobody had commented there for more than a year, so I guess this is a better place for this.  Sorry for he duplication.

I am not sure where to even start this, so it may come out a little bit unorganized, but I beg you to stay with me.  I was diagnosed with ADHD about 10 years ago and have been on and off of many medications over the years.  I have been on and off Adderal for the past 2 years sometimes with great results and at other times not so great. 

Just an update....nothing has changed.  My DH refuses to see there are issues and he is still planning a way out.  I haven't found a way to ask him for a separation yet, I want us to part as friends at least and I would like to get through the holidays for his daughters sake (shes only 8). Today he picked me up from work and asked how my day went.  Thinking I could be honest (first day on my own at the new job), I told him it was a bit stressful because I was on my own and still had to ask alot of questions.  I am the type of person that wants to learn something NOW, I hate looking dumb.  W

I think the worst thing of all is seeing people judge the special needs and ADD kids in my life. Teachers or friends and even family who say Oh he's just lazy or he is just undisciplined. Its like they refuse to see a disability they want to just assume that you're a bad kid. I went through this growing up and it hurt so much to be told that I was a naughty little girl for things that I couldn't control or understand. I don't want that for my kids or my nephew. Its crippling emotionally to grow up being treated like you're a bad kid for not being normal or prefect.

I apologize to all of you who tried to leave comments or to post new forum topics.  I keep this site tightly up-to-date with security patches and other updates.  In updating the editor module for the site (the editor that allows you to bold and italicize without needing to know HTML code), it introduced a bug that kept the editor from appearing, and thus making it impossible to create content on the site.  It is now fixed.  My apologies again to all who tried to post over the last two days.

George

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD only about 6 months ago. My mom and dad are our good friends and are the people we usually go to when we need advice. However, since the diagnosis and starting treatment (medication and counseling) my dad has started showing irritation toward my husband--almost as if he has no more patience for him anymore. We’ve explained in basic terms what ADHD is and how an ADHD brain works, but my dad either does not believe it is legitimate or maybe feels inadequate in understanding what support my husband and I need so he is coming across annoyed unintentionally.