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Here I am plodding towards another lonely Christmas. Nothing has changed while HB has been away from me, in fact he has gotten a lot worse. His defensiveness is now off the scale. His family are indifferent and allow him to live with and off their elderly mother without challenge. When he has our youngest, he rings he constantly to complain about his behaviour. He also allowed him to go to the park alone (aged 10 in central London) and sleeps until 11am, leaving the child to wander around calling me frequently to ask what to do.

I have a question for the members of this forum who have ADD.  I'm in a relationship with someone who has ADD, they're susposed to love me, but as soon as someone or something new comes along, I barely exist.  This happens constantly.  How can you love someone and ignore them?  I feel like he just uses me to keep from being bored until something better comes along.   

http://www.dsm5.org/ProposedRevisions/Pages/proposedrevision.aspx?rid=383#

That's the link to the proposed changes coming our way with the DSM-5.  Dr. Barkley also states that they are working on a severity scale and proper discussion of the spectrum of ADHD. Finally people won't be able to pretend its just a mild disorder! What do you think or the changes?

Hi all,

My husband asked me a few days ago if we were done.  I truly don't believe we are, yet I fear I'm in denial.  We both want things from our marriage, but neither one of us are able to deliver.  My husband's ADD is worse than ever.  He's committed to getting treatment, but has missed a few appointments because he was too late to bother showing up at all.  He also confessed that he isn't getting anywhere with his therapist because she listens and offers no real advice.  My husband got in to see the psychiatrist, was given Adderall, and weeks later, got it filled yesterday.   

So I'm new to the site and have been reading many posts and decided I'd finally join and post my story.  My fiance and I have been together for 5 1/2 years.  We have to beautiful children, a girl who's 3 and a boy who's 1.  my DF was recently diagnosed with ADD after I did some research and spoke to him about it.  He's very eager and excited about the possibility of him feeling somewhat "normal" for the first time in his life.  He's always said he feels he's just wired differently. 

I feel like I live on a roller coaster. Some days it's fun other days it's just pure exhausting... for no REAL reason. My ADHD husband works six days a week, so you would think that the one day we both have off together you would try extra hard to have a nice day and enjoy each others company. But more times that not Sunday mornings seem to always start off on the wrong foot. This morning he was watching TV and I was riding the stationary bike. He looks over at me and says that's why the house smells. I said what do you mean (I didn't know the house smelled).

Just a short question...has anyone tried this and with what results?

Thanks!

I first have to say how grateful I am for this forum. I've been reading and reading  but hadn't joined. But I have no where else to vent or ask for help. I don't have many friends and the ones who understood what I am going through, I've had to stop talking to because of trust issues with my husband and I. So I'm coming here, hoping for help. Hoping for any tidbit that will make me not drive my husband and family nuts.

This probably won't win me any popularity contest but it really bothers me how people describes people with ADHD as children and babies and not adults. We have a disability but we are adults. It hurts, it bugs me. It's bigoted. I know it comes from a place of pain but I don't like it at all. It's demeaning and disrespectful. If someone had a physical disability and needed help would it be okay to call them a manchild? One lady here has bad knees and needs extra help and can't do some things. Can I call her a little girl? It's just wrong and I don't like it.