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Though i know this is a very subjective question, but all those couples who have had a happy relationship, what are the qualities you think would work well with someone with typical ADHD characteristics. I am going for an arrange marriage & was curious what qualities would come at the top of your head - is "Opposites Attract" especially true in case of one spouse having ADHD? or does the ADHD spouse feels things might get dull and looks for someone more like themselves.

I am wondering if anyone out there is in a similar situation like mine. I live 3000 miles away from my closest relatives. I am in the same city as my spouse's family, I'm in the same area where my spouse grew up and went to college. So, almost every person i know is through my spouse. I did meet quite a few people where I worked but after I had children i lost track of many of them because I was able to stay home with my children. Suffice it to say, Just about every person i know is through my spouse. So, here is my current delima.

The story that follows is long and filled with self-pity, but I've tried to be as honest as possible and not "spin" it in my favor.  I do want someone to answer the following question:  Is a trait or characteristic of persons with ADHD to "defend" themselves by making you think you're crazy or just horribly prone to misunderstanding everything?  Is it a trait or characteristic to say "thoughtless" things without any idea of the pain they are causing?  I don't seem to have trouble understanding or being understood by anyone else in my family, in my work life and in my friendships.  Yet with

At this point, I am just going to throw in the towel.  I give up.  Another day, another bounced rent check.  I give up.  I feel like I've done everything I can do and nothing ever gets better.  He never changes.  If I'm not on my game 24/7 watching and monitoring what he's doing, things get out of control in no time flat.  I'm tired.  I don't want to have to keep track of a grown man's ATM charges.  I don't want to have to be the responsible one all the time.  I tired of always being the one who wants to work on the relationship or get our life back on track after it's been derailed by one

I met an amazing man in January!  I was separated from my husband & he was in the midst of a divorce.  He owned his own business and seemed to be doing well.   He told me he had ADD, but I didn't see any signs of it other than excitement when telling me about a wonderful vacation trip he took last year.  Hey, I would be rambling and spilling over with excitement too--he went to Hawaii!   For 3 months, he showed all the signs of man head-over-heels in love...

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My non-add wife after leaving for two nights came home and forgave her ADD husband.  Walking and thinking during the alone time gave her the chance to think.  When she returned we shared the longest hug in years and sat holding hands, sharing a few tears.  She is wanting to work things out and she said it will take time.  She told me she wanted to "make me pay", but I don't really understand for what I'm being blamed for and to asked would agitate a raw healing nerve.

I have decided to take a break form here and focus on myself and not my DH's ADHD.  I need to find myself again and although I love you guys to death (YZZ, Sheri, DF......), I just don't think I can do that while being on here every day.  Just know that you all are awesome and the most supportive group on individuals I have ever met and I will be back.  And hopefully it will be in a better frame of mind and with more positives than negatives to share.  Bye for now!

As some of you may heave read one of my earlier posts.  I found out last year that my husband had/and still is having an affair with a former  friend of mine.  It appeared that we were at least making some small steps.  We were at least civil to each other.  I have stepped back and learned so much about ADD (he was just diagnosed this past spring). I understand why he behaves the way he does. I have given him support, space, I do not nag.  I have worked a lot on myself and my bad behaviors.  I do not let him engage me..I have realized it takes 2 to fight.  We have two small boys, one of whi