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I have been lurking on this website for months and have read more than one post I could have written myself.  I've been married to an ADD husband for 17 yrs.  Things have deteriorated greatly in the past few years.  He is a good provider and we have no financial problems relating to his ADD.  But his attention to our relationship is 0.  We have two boys, 15 and 10.  The 15 yr old is ADD as well.  Hubby had a very dysfunctional upbringing and poor relationship with his mother.  I am now paying the price for that in our home.  I feel that he transfers much of his experience/resentment towards

This is for YYZ or anyone else who may have insight on ADDers with anxiety.

I feel like this is almost over. Joining the throngs of many.. He is just not changing, his meds are not working, his symptoms (ie his distractibility, memory "fill ins", ANGER) have all been inchanged. His refusal to accept responsibility for any of our problems, refusal to consider changing his meds, and his unending barrage of hate and blame- has gotten concrete not better despkte all my efforts to give him space, be understanding, , work on my low self esteem, etc. I have tried drawing boundaries but he can not or will not respect them.

Hi all,

I'm new here and what brought me here is that I have ADHD and I'm currently crashed. My DH gets upset at me when I crash and says it hurts him because I shut him out.

As im read here im noticing allot of abbreviations or accronyms....can someone fill me in please....dh? Wd? Abcdefg.....lol help im new here

I am not a fan of throwing my issues out for all to see ... I have a strict rule on Facebook how our things stay our things.  However, I need help, and I'm really unsure where to turn next.

You know, I could take a collage of all the feeling here and throw them in this post, they're all so spot on (and I see people say that all the time, here, too!).

Well, it's been awhile since my last post so here goes.....baby steps, but going in the right direction.  Two weeks ago we sat down and had a real "heart to heart" if you will.  After that I made the decision to pull back and let go...and let the chips fall where they may.  Well its working or at least I think it is....a week ago we had a minor meltdown on his part due to him not paying attention to my whole statement and only hearing part of it, making an assumption and getting pissed.  When I looked at him and asked him to look at me and listen to the whole statement, he got it.  He then

We had a bit of a break this summer, and I really chilled out. My parents were mostly taking care of the kids most of the time and we were around a lot of people, which always makes my husband behave better. I've been worrying about what would happen once we got back to our normal life, just us and the kids, and needing to be on a schedule for school. Well, it's all fallen apart quickly.

I kept looking for a thread for my topic, but I've given up and decided to go the direct route.

First and formost thank god for this website and for all of you out there struggling with an add/ADHD SPOUSE. i cant say how much you all have helped me by sharing your stories, being the non adhd spouse is an extremely Lonely place to be and it helps to know im not alone after all. I had no clue how many people were living lives just like mine. This post would be about a month long if i statred from the begining so ill just say that ive been with my husband for 17 years. It has been a rollercoster to say the least. My husband is add and my 13 year old son is adhd.