This happened a few months before I "discovered" adult ADHD. I got upset with my guy one Saturday-- who can remember why?-- and decided to give him the silent treatment. Four hours later I ran into him in the kitchen. He cheerfully asked me "How come you're in such a good mood today?" I cried at the time, but now, understanding what's going on up there, I'm laughing.
I have been pretty hopeful in the past weeks things were starting to get better. My husband was given Ritalin without the diagnosis he says and it helps but I can't seem to let go of the rage that has built up over the years. I go from 0 - 120 enraged over even the littlest things. Today I am in full rage and I hate it. I just want to be happy and enjoy my life but I feel the the kaos that surrounds me is stifling. My husband has anger outbursts that are scary, well they used to be anyway now I challenge him.
I've never had a problem letting my husband know what I need and why: "The laundry has to be picked up from the laundry room floor before they deliver the new washer", "I can't do the laundry because I fell in the laundry room, and I have not one pair of clean underwear, so I need you to do laundry", "because you lost your job, I can't get my hypertension meds and I'm going to have another stroke", etc. I often cry when I beg and plead with him to do some small task I can't do. He ignores me.
As a creative, I always knew I had organizational problems, but it wasn't until I was in a relationship for four years did the accumulation of all of my ADD tendencies take a toll. I didn't realize it during the relationship but so many of the symptoms fit now that I am about a year away from our break-up and newly self diagnosed with ADD within the last week or so.
Ok so many of you may find this humorous, crazy or just unbelievable but I find it utterly confusing!! My husband usually shaves his head, which I hate because I love it when its a bit longer (like the shortest clipper attachment, before bald). So last night he tells me he is going to go and shave his head and take a shower..fine whatever do what ya gotta do. Really I couldn't figure out why he was telling me, well when he came out he had only shaved the bottom half of his head and looked like he had a mushroom on top of his head. I actually laughed and told him to go finish shaving his
I have been reading this website for a month or so and it has been a bit eye opening and also scary because so many of the posts are similar to my own situation with my husband. My husband exhibits so many of the symptoms of ADHD and has experienced these since childhood. He finally went to see a pyschologist and after completing a couple of hours of testing, basically filling out a bunch of questionnaires and surveys, they diagnosed him with bipolor disorder and not adhd. Now we are super confused, frustrated and really don't know where to go from here. My husband is very discouraged.
Greetings all,
This morning, I write from a place of sadness.
I am a 25 yr old male with adHd & mild tics, reading this website makes me feel as if I should not ever get married, getting married to someone non-adhd would totally disrupt their lifestyle and would be like a selfish henious crime from my side with smne's life............
I just finished reading an article in the magazine "Good Housekeeping" that really has alot of good advice about some of the struggles we all face on a daily basis. The article is called "Crisis Control" by Mark Matousek.
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