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I am at my wits end.  I have been reading melissa's blog for 2 days now...things are so clear to me

1/2 our roof needs replacing...becuase of damage and the insurance will cover it...he wants to replace the other half, but we have no financial head space to do it...I am currently in charge and he knows the state of our finances.

DH: it will help us sell in 3 years

I am married to a man with ADHD, he has had his diagnosis for 3 years and is on meds. We also have a 6 year old son with ADHD, also on meds. I have just read the book ADHD and marriage, experienced a lot of "moment of clarity" these past few weeks while reading. Not just about my husband but also how my own behavior has contributed to where we are today. Our relationship has been a rollercoaster, constant ups and downs, doing better when I chose to ignore him and kind of doing my own thing, taking care and providing for our kids etc.

YYYZ? Ellamenno? Someone?

I'm seeing instances of procrastination that are driving me nuts! I'm looking to understand it. I don't think there is a way to fix it, if he's not interested.

Two examples in the last weekend:

We all have ADHD, mine most severe. I have learned to cope with my symptoms with strategies I've read about and ones I have developed on my own (out of necessity). I do not want to live in chaos any longer. I do not want to wake up every morning to chaos and yelling. I am tired of doing all the housework and cleaning up after 8, yes 8 dogs that my wife impulsively decided to "foster". I'm going nuts trying to get my family to buy into a schedule for cleaning (our house is w wreck, so much that the kids do not want to bring anyone over.

Hi everyone,

I have been reading this site for a while now and am amazed at how much I see not only my girlfriend but myself in these posts. 

I have posted previously.  My marriage appears to be past the point of return; my wife has just canceled our last marriage counseling session.  I am very sad but resigned.  I am going to attempt follow Melissa's path, as she presented in her book, by working on my best self rather than pining over my failing relationship.  My wife and I have many issues to work out: financial and legal (bankruptcy and house) and children (2 boys, 7 and 5).  We have discussed separation and dissolution.  Any advice for what to do next or how to start?  

Rob H

I have not started a post in a long time, so I think today is as good as any.

A little over two years after my diagnosis I feel like things in my house are better than they have been in a long time. I always take my meds, read and respond to many posts here (This site and it's great people have really made a difference) and continue to work on my ADD behavior. Communication between my DW is much improved and the anger and frustration seems to be fading fast.

I feel like my heart is breaking...

I'd like to ask: What the rest of you do when your adhd spouses are having extreme mood swings? and maybe those with adhd could tell me what they are feeling or thinking, etc. I would greatly appreciate ANY personal dealings with this. My adhd husband is on Concerta, but he can have some really "down" days, in which it seems that NOTHING can cheer him up, or change his mood, and I have always been at a loss as to what to do, or how to respond. I used to be really concerned and care very much about "what was bothering him", but he could never really tell me anything specific.

Hi group, Maybe someone can give me insight into my adhd husband's type of adhd, because it is still confusing to me, and at times I am just STUMPED. He was never lazy, in fact he was always "doing something" (I guess hyperactivity?)He didn't do things in ways that most kids would do, but I guess some of his actions could have seemed as "lazy". He WAS messy, and never put anything back, and his father was always angry at him for something.