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I just found this site and I have read several post from the spouses of men with ADD. My wife is also one of the very frustrated and I am afraid ready to give up. For those of you that do not have or understand what an ADD person goes through on a daily basis, I envy you. You are the normal ones, you keep your focus, you finish what you start, and most of all you don't hurt the people you love the most. I, on the other hand, do get distracted, cannot finish anything I start to save my life.

Hello,

 

I have become familiar with the main authorities/authors in the area of adult ADD after I was diagnosed a couple of years ago.  But who and what are the best resources for parenting an ADD child?  My son is 13 and was diagnosed at age 10 (that's how I discovered I have it too).  I am interested in finding some resources that help to teach life skills for his future as an adult and not just tips for getting him through school or etc.  I want to know how to best prepare him for LIFE?

I have been married for 18 years.  Most of our marriage we had no idea that I have ADD.  I "self-diagnosed" about a year after our son was diagnosed in 4th grade (now in 7th).  I have all the classic symptoms except thankfully I seem to have been spared the addictions (although I think I have addictive tendencies), my impulsivity is fairly low (I think!?),  and I do not generally do the dangerous stuff like thrill-seeking or reckless driving, etc.

I have trouble reading through entire articles so I always look for video lectures if I can. I have been chasing info re emotional regulation and physical brain structure and I found this you tube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTItzKrNX68. There is a second part and he is entertaining. if you or your spouse have intense emotions, you may want to pay attention to what he is saying about "amygdala hijack"  It affects the guess what... prefrontal cortex. Sound familiar?

My husband has adhd.  Our relationship has always been difficult, but after the birth of our first child, I just couldnt take it anymore and when my son was 6 month old I left him.  In the beginning of our relationship he was the most amazing person I ever met.  He was so kind, considerate, generous and I couldnt believe how much he loved me and I fell in love with him, although he never believed that I ever loved him.  Everything progressed really quick in our relationship, he was desperate to get me moved in and married, so we married after 18 months.  Thinking back now, I could probabl

My best effort to summarize my painfully long story: I came across this website several months ago.  I began talking about it with my husband.  At first he was open to the discussions and receptive to my apologizes for treating him horribly in result of not know what was going on and just feeling like he didn’t care about me at all.  (He was diagnosed before we met, I just never knew anything about it, and never even looked into it, until our relationship was falling apart before my eyes.)  But very quickly his reaction to my self educating changed.

I am 40 years old.  I "self-diagnosed" my ADD about 2 years ago after my son (then age 10) was diagnosed (Inattentive Type Only, no H).  As a Mom, I dove into research to help him and discovered that this condition is very hereditary.  Then after about a year, the pieces started coming together and I realized that I have it too (same type).  I sought out a licensed counselor at my church who is familiar with ADD and asked my family doctor to allow me to try meds.  My son's improvements with meds are DRAMATIC, but me--not so much.  So I thought they weren't working.

Things have taken a turn for the worse here...

Let me start out by saying that I consider myself extremely lucky to have an ADHD partner who manages his ADHD freakishly well and that we are in a very long long distance relationship which cannot end for another year or so due to previously made and important commitments. Despite this we have a spectacular relationship, which like any relationship has had it's ups and major downs, but unlike any other relationship that I've ever been in I've never questioned that he is my happily ever after. I know, without a doubt, that we are meant to be together.