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So I am the ADHEer and I thought I was doing right by focusing on our marriage but I guess I was hyper focusing, Now I feel like I have just taken a big leap back, among other things I still don't know how to please my wife, I feel like I have to walk on egg shells around her I am so scared of losing her it is driving me nuts. Yes on meds Yes seeing a therapist, but marriage is still a question of I DON'T KNOW, I am so afraid the she might be having other intentions. any non-adhd spouse have any advice how to comfort and give relief to my wife.

My 59 year old husband has finally been diagnosed with severe ADHD.  He has talked about getting help for our entire marriage, but never followed through until now.  He has been prescribed the generic form of Ritalin (10mg), two to four times per day.  He is currently taking a pill in the morning and another one later in the afternoon.  Does anyone have any advice on what I can expect as far as side effects and pros and cons of him taking Ritalin?  Thanks.

I came across this site and thought, hallelujah, finally a  place where we can discourse openly about the issues in relationships where one or both partners have ADHD. While I did discover a great many positive and supportive posts and a number offering sage advice, I am sad to say there has been a preponderance of negative and resentful and at times very hurtful comments from "normals" There are an alarming amount of pejorative remarks that tend to categorize ADHD adults as social deviants something akin to zoo animals. There is entirely too much us/them stuff going on for my comfort.

My ADD husband and I have only been married 22 months. He has 3 children and I have 3.  Our problems started before marriage but i had no idea about his Add until probably the last 4 months.  He has been on meds for about 6 mo but he told me it was for PTSD. Our problems have been with procastination, not following-thru, unfinished projects, and of course the division of responsiblity in our blended family.  He feels I hate his kids because I refuse to do it all in our home. We have a business together and I have issues there too.

I have just finished the first half of “marriage and adhd” and this first half has just described in detail my last 30 years of marriage every paragraph and were my relationship is at. I am also reading “ you mean I’m not lazy, crazy and stupid “and feel I have found what I have been feeling for most of my life. These came along on pbs show ” adhd and loving it” which for me was a light bulb going on.

I recently joined and only posted once. I can barely function between all the things that are going on with my ADHD spouse and lack of resposibiity and having to put our farm up for sale, surgury on daughter with Down's Syndrome who resides with us and is a sweetheart and  now he again needs surgury which after going thru many surguries he does not handle with much emotion other than anger and that being directed at me. I can't concentrate. As I'm typing this I'm wondering why try anymore. 13 years of a second marriage and it has just been a nitemare at times.

I have recently found out that I have ADHD, Now to make a long story short I am deployed to Iraq and had some marriage problems, digging it out of my wife I found out she was thinking about leaving me when I returned, that she was not happy and has not been happy for a long time.  Doing some hard talking with her we both discovered ADHD and the effect it had on our marriage.  It was such a relief and now we both are wanting us to be together again but have hit some road blocks, let me explain and hopefully someone has gone though this and can lend a hand. 

 

My husband and I have been together for 6 years.  We got married last June.  Hes 26 and I’m 25.  He was diagnosed with ADHD before we met.  He told me about it in the beginning but I never really thought anything of it.  I thought it was just that he couldn’t hold still and always had to have the t.v. on, etc.  I had no idea how much it impacted his life nor did I ever look into what it really was.  Last December he asked me for a divorce.  We had been fighting pretty heavily for the previous two months.

Judging by the posts about the non ADHD partners, it would seem that a relationship that consisted of 2 adults with ADHD would be a chaos ridden battleground, not to mention what happens when little ADHD people come along. My spouse and I have endured each others faults and foibles for over 20 years, 17 of which were undiagnosed. Maybe it is easier to forgive your partner when you recognize your own faults, especially when those faults are echoed in the other. We discovered that the diagnosis was key in improving our quality of life.

Hi everyone, i guess i get so frustrated by the description of the ADD person.  They are incapable of finishing anything, they are unreliable and they are a burden on the non ADD spouse. I have ADD and am classic about the highs of life thing. I am however, raising 3 girls, I started a Green Team in our town (including a website), I am on the Board of a local sports organization and have 2 other jobs that needed to be fixed. I am helping to improve some youth issues in towns. When people have issues, they come to me b/c they know I know how to fix it.