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Now I am the one not paying attention...

So I got caught not paying attention to my ADHD fiance the other day. For close to three hours she was either going on and on about some topic and then would switch to complete silence as she shopped online. It switched back and forth so much, and I was busy putting together something that I completely shut her off and gave her canned answers to make her think i was listening (i know - something out of a bad sitcom). Well eventually she saw through that and thanks to her knack of holding on to every. little. thing. ever.

New to this site but desperate for help!

My husband and I have been married for only 3 and a half years- I am 27 and he is 28. I knew he had ADHD when I met him because he talked about how it affected him at school. I never saw any signs of it while we were dating so I thought it was something he grew out of. I was wrong, over the last two years I feel like we have been on a down hill spiral.

Far too young to have to be dealing with this

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years (he's nineteen; I'm eighteen.) Last year, he was diagnosed with ADD, and all of the sudden, things started to make more sense. For a while, there was a kind of honeymoon period where I could very happily excuse his behavior, thinking, “he’s on medication now—things are going to get better.” Surprise—things haven’t gotten all that much better, and this past weekend, I got to the point where I strongly considered going after him with a large mallet.

Too Fast Too Soon?

Real quick, I am the one with ADD, was diagnosed in 2010 and started medication, seeing someone professionally and making the necessary changes for myself.  During this time, my wife the non-add spouse started to take care of herself, establish her support system and ensure that she/we do not go back to what we were.  Before ADD I could not understand or figure out why she was what I thought "running away" from me/us?  Why she was not talking to me, why she stopped all physical and emotional contact with me.  I was frustrated, confused, pissed and everything else you can think of.  Yes, I

Utter denial.

I have been married to a man with ADHD- hyper focus disorder for 25 years. The only problem is that he completely denies having ANY problem at all. His ability to use his hyper focus has been very successful- as a technology professional it has served him well and been an asset. In our personal life, it has been horrible. But this professional success has led him to believe it really isn't a problem- "it's just the way he is".

ADD Men's Gift Giving Guide 2011

I have been thinking a lot about the subject of gifts, after a number of posts from people who felt really hurt this year because of the kind of the gifts they received either for Christmas or some other occasion, or the lack of gift at all.  So I thought I would give my thoughts on gift-giving to the ADD men out there -- I actually think this could be a book in and of itself.  Perhaps my own DH will take a look at this at some point.

Here are the major events for which you SHOULD give a gift, and what you should think about when buying/planning it:

Another Meeting Missed

DH has once again, pulled a no-show for our daily meeting.  Not sure what the hell is going on.  Yes, Im still hurt about his behavior the other night, but I have still remained available to him (phone calls to him, tried to attend our counseling meeting this morning but the counsoler didn't show - seems DH forgot to call and schedule the appointment (so its now been 3 full week without a session).

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