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     We have been lucky enough to find a counselor who will see us on Saturdays (but she's not there every Saturday). We had a session yesterday where we talked about some of his ADHD characteristics  that drive me crazy. One of them is that I feel like he does not value my life because he chose not to work for nearly 3 years and I had to go without necessary medical care. Another is one everyone involved with someone with ADHD is familiar with-not keeping their word.

My husband was recently diagnosed with ADD.  He started on medication about 3 weeks ago.  We have both been doing quite a bit of reading and have recently been trying some tips provided in one of the books to keep him on task.  Last night he created a card catalog with chores and stuff that needs to be done around the house.  Today he had set three cards aside to complete.  Cat box, dog poop and sweep the kitchen.  He got up at 0700 this morning.  When I got home from work at 3pm he was just starting the floors.  He stated to me that he liked having the cards but he is still having troubl

Please forgive me for pointing you out directly, I hope you do not mind. You said something in response to someone else that I felt really compelled to ask you about. You said that the first 10 years of your marriage were great and then something just changed...and admitted that the change came from within you. I first have to say that I have a lot of respect for you to be able to admit that. I am praying for you that your wife will someday see these 'small' admissions as the HUGE milestones that they are.

my girlfriend asked me to read up on some of the things on here in the hope of this shedding some light on my problems (ADD) i must say what i have read some of posts people actually seem to care about people with ADD but on the most part you really hate us reading through quite a few different posts we really get a whipping my problem is this i've got ADD and i feel useless im made to feel useless most of my life i had a shit upbringing 3 out 4 siblings had ADD my mum was an alcoholic my father although my real not blood father was good but used to sit me down and give lectures for hours

So today my mother-in-law was playing with our 4 and 2 year old in their play area in the basement and found a pill on the floor. Turns out it was one of my husbands 70mg Vyvance. Needless to say she probably saved one of their lives because I have no doubt at all that had one of the children found it they would have eaten it. It's very pretty after all. Apparently my husband keeps his bag with his child proof bottles of medication hanging on a hook at the top of the basement stairs. At some point he must have dropped one and didn't notice. I thought he was taking them at work.

I am new to the forum and found a lot of useful information here

My ADHD spouse is in denial.  I have read so many books about ADHD but I cant get my wife to read none.  I trying to get her to educate her self on the symptoms Adhd

Its very frustrating that she will not addressed these issues.  I love my wife with all my heart but I am starting to wonder if our marriage will ever improve.

I wish I could get her to just read some these forums and blogs

Can  anybody help??

I was so grateful to find this site over a year a half ago that I felt compelled to come back and continue where my saga left off. At the time I posted my first entry, I was contemplating leaving my husband. I am now 17 months into what I call an “ADHD Divorce” and I am hoping to shed light to those in my situation. I wanted to come back here because when you’re in the ‘thick of it’, living with an ADHD spouse, it’s almost impossible to see how bad it is.

I need help.  My ADHD husband is very inconsistent with disciplining our kids and with keeping normal school routines, etc.  BUT he thinks I am undermining him when I discipline or when I try to keep a constant routine (such as with bedtimes, no TV at night, etc.....)  HELP !!!! I am ready to throw in the towel- How do we raise our kids when only one parent is consistent ??

After finding out about ADD and understanding it, I am able to start resolve my issues and understand some of the issues I have with my wife, but I did take a toll on my wife and right now we are "in house" separated.  I live/sleep downstairs after our kids are put to bed. We no longer talk, have not had any physical contact to include kissing and hugging since Jan of 2010. I have not heard the words "I Love You" since July of this year as well. Our finances have hit rock bottom and we are headed for a divorce.

I have moved/re-titled this post in a way that is less emotional and more able to be advised upon.