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I have to preface this by saying my husband has never been officially diagnosed with this.  It's me who has been looking into it because I thought our marriage sounded just like what Melissa was describing when she was promoting her book.  The more I have been reading though the more I think he has ADD but things aren't too bad with us so I am not pushing him to do anything about this.  I think we are able to get along pretty well because I have a good job and there are just the two of us - no kids to be responsible for.  So he does things that drive me nuts sometimes (like today when he

I would like to hear from anyone who's adhd partner has drinking issues. Either drinking too much, too often, or who seems to totally change into someone/something else when they drink. I am 38, and this morning I came to the conclusion that I have to get rid of alcohol from my life entirely. I've been told by family, friends, and girlfriends that when I drink it's like I'm transformed into someone else; as though I am on the prowl for ANY reason to fight, and if there isn't one then I persist until I get one. It has also ruined me financially over the years.

Firstly, I don't know if this thread has been posted already. If so, I do apologize for a repeat.

I've felt enough loneliness in my relationship to last an entire lifetime!

My workaholic ADD partner just accepted a new shift where he works from 4pm-2am Tuesday to Sunday. Meaning, he'll never have or be able to take a Friday or Saturday off. He's suppose to be one of the top guys there so I'm not sure why he's even being asked to work on the weekends?!?!?! The other top guy refused the shift and told my partner to do the same... but my partner "just can't say no".  (he says no to me constantly, heh, interesting!<--- to the point where I even think he has ODD.) 

Hello,

I just ordered this book even though I am not married.  I have been in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend who has ADD.  He definitely has the inattentive disorder and not the hyperactivity.   Luckily he is not impulsive and not a substance abuser.  He actually has a very hard time making ANY decisions and can be very tight with his money, even though he is very successful.

This is a thread to collect ideas from both the ADHD partner and the nonADHD partners to post ideas/strategies that they have tried, and had positive results from. From taking out the garbage, to showing up on time, establishing eating/bedtime routines, to giving/receiving criticisms, communicating needs and handling conflict situations. It might be better if the poster first says if they are the adhd partner (adhd+), or the non adhd partner (adhd-); who's idea it was, how it was brought up, and the results.

I recently purchased the book - The ADHD Effect on Marriage. I have been married for 24 years and I believe my wife has ADHD. She does admit she probably has ADHD, but refuses to seek any help. Our 16 year old son has been recently diagnosed with ADHD and is currently taking medication for this. I have seen a big improvement in him, when he is on his ADHD medication. My wife shows many of the same symptoms as my son, but like I said before, refuses to seek help. I have spent countless hours researching ADHD and I am about at the end of my rope.

My ADD husband is on meds for depression and ADD - for the last 18-24 months as well as counseling for ADD for 4 months (2nd time). Plus we have been in marriage counseling for about 4-5 sessions.  He know feels that he doesn't need the ADD counseling any longer.

Clearly it's frustrating that ADDers don't notice messes and undone chores. But I'm also reading that a lot of the non-ADDers are worried about nagging.

I would LIKE my boyfriend to nag me more. Not nag, but remind.

A lot of times I don't do chores because if I even notice they need to happen, I get sidetracked. BUT if my boyfriend tells me they are bothering him, or he just needs help because he doesn't have time to do it all, I am almost certain to get it done (not awesomely, but done). They stand out in my head as the important things to do.

Hi,

I'm in a new relationship of about 9 months with a kind, sweet, romantic man.  He is always late and a couple of times, just didn't show up when he said he would.  I almost broke up with him twice.  He wrote me a note, sent flowers, etc and told me he has ADD.

I bought the book ADHD and Marriage by Ms. Orlov and recognize a lot of the same situations with my guy.

I'm wondering if you long suffering partners would have gotten out when you could have, if you had known about ADD during the courtship phase?