I am not sure yet, but my own diagnosis of my husband is a form of adhd.
One symptom is watering. He waters plants, trees, and the grass with the hose for hours. HE thinks he is doing something important. When I come home and ask what he has done say for the last 3 hours, I can see all the puddles and wet sidewalks. He waters sometimes daily, sometimes only 3 times a week. But even when it has rained the day before, he waters.
I've been with my husband for 6 years and now married for only 3 months. He said he may have a bit of ADHD but was never diagnosed as such. He has a union job and used up all his vacation and sick time within three months and now he uses FMLA to take days off. He got it for his back, but hardly any of the times he takes off are because of that. He is on day 3 of calling in sick. I get home and find him there in his pjs, playing his online game, drinking beer. If he called in sick and actually did something productive it wouldn't be as bad, but he does nothing.
After living with my husband for 32 years, and suffering , grief, loss, being constantly lonely, raising 3 children almost single handedly and working to make ends meet, while he squandered our money, spent most of his spare time out enjoying his latest hobby (hyperfocus) completely oblivious to how much I was hurting, I finally found out that he has ADHD - He is still in denial, but at least has attended 1 appointment with a Psychiatrist after I threatened to leave 2 months ago.
I am an ADHD single parent (female) and am in a very critical stage in our relationship (it is with "baby daddy"). We have been off and on for 4 years and reconciled in January and were separated for a year prior.
I'm wanting to meet a therapist who I can work with and trust as much as I trust what I've found in the book. What should I look for? What questions should I ask of them?
I have to preface this by saying my husband has never been officially diagnosed with this. It's me who has been looking into it because I thought our marriage sounded just like what Melissa was describing when she was promoting her book. The more I have been reading though the more I think he has ADD but things aren't too bad with us so I am not pushing him to do anything about this. I think we are able to get along pretty well because I have a good job and there are just the two of us - no kids to be responsible for. So he does things that drive me nuts sometimes (like today when he
I would like to hear from anyone who's adhd partner has drinking issues. Either drinking too much, too often, or who seems to totally change into someone/something else when they drink. I am 38, and this morning I came to the conclusion that I have to get rid of alcohol from my life entirely. I've been told by family, friends, and girlfriends that when I drink it's like I'm transformed into someone else; as though I am on the prowl for ANY reason to fight, and if there isn't one then I persist until I get one. It has also ruined me financially over the years.
Firstly, I don't know if this thread has been posted already. If so, I do apologize for a repeat.
I've felt enough loneliness in my relationship to last an entire lifetime!
My workaholic ADD partner just accepted a new shift where he works from 4pm-2am Tuesday to Sunday. Meaning, he'll never have or be able to take a Friday or Saturday off. He's suppose to be one of the top guys there so I'm not sure why he's even being asked to work on the weekends?!?!?! The other top guy refused the shift and told my partner to do the same... but my partner "just can't say no". (he says no to me constantly, heh, interesting!<--- to the point where I even think he has ODD.)
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