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I wonder if there are any others like me here who have an ADHD marriage but no kids.  I've been reading here and it seems like most people have kids which I can imagine would make the whole situation much more difficult and overwhelming.  Though I see our situation in so much of what I've read - and my husband is so much like ADD descriptions - it also doesn't seem like we have it anywhere near as "bad" as what others describe.   I'm not sure if that's because we don't have kids to complicate matters or if we've just found a way to tolerate our differences or if my husband's ADD tendencie

I'm glad I found this site. I have been married to my husband, who has ADHD, for over a year but we've been together almost 9 years. We have a 5 month old son. I'm really afraid that our marriage is going to end, and my son will come from a broken home. I've always known that DH has problems- we met in a PhD program, and even though he's very bright, it took him 8 years of struggle to finish. He has since struggled to keep jobs, and has lost some. He now works a full time job, but is having so much difficulty managing it. He ends up needing to work on weekends almost all the time.

Hi everyone,

Today I saw a sign that said "If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging." I felt it so appropriate for what I felt for so many years of my marriage, before the ADD diagnosis and before I finally "got it" and 'stopped digging'. Such great advice, sounds so simple, but it is so hard. Just wanted to share.

My husband suffered heat exhaustion while on the job a couple of weeks ago and ended up in the ER.   Since he was on the job at the time of the heat exhaustion, he was given a drug test.  The drug test came back positive for amphetamines. Well, since he takes Adderall for ADHD and since Adderall is an amphetamine, he was fired last Wednesday.  His supervisor who fired him was very professional and even though my husband explained that he takes this medication for ADHD, since there was no documentation in his file, he was still let go.

I am the non ADD spouse and  I have lost interest in sex (as opposed to the other post with ADD spouses as sex addicts or not interested in sex).  Mr. ADD wants sex often, but I just can't go there because he is so nasty all day long.  He used to have violent outbursts, break things etc. Now, he has that under control but he just has a generally nasty attitude. He seems to always be angry, defensive and snippy.

My husband was recently diagnosed with ADD and is on Adderall for his symptoms (his PCP just prescribed this to him after a 15 minute assessment by the way).  The problem I am seeing is he is having angry outbursts towards me that scare me and I'm not sure what to do.

He thinks that taking his medication will just "fix" him, and has done nothing else to help himself with his problems.  He has a full time job and is suppose to be going to school as well, but I found an email that he had been dropped, so he putting that off too I guess.

Hi,

My husband recently started seeing another psychiatrist for the ADHD.  He started 4 weeks ago and so far little to no results on Strattera, but based on what I've read, it requires some patience.  He believes meds are "just for now" and that his goal is to get off of them (I think he needs to stay on them...).

First I want to say thank you for all the advice and support you have given.  I'm not Christian (I'm Buddhist), but I must say you are an angel and have made me see things differently.  I now realize (and the Dalai Lama's teachings help) that I CANNOT change someone else's behavior, I can ONLY change the way that I respond to the behavior.  So thank you.