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I would love to get some success stories of how any of you have successfully helped your spouse realize / accept that their ADD is a big part of the problems in the marriage.  My husband blames our marital problems on me - he says I am an angry, abusive person and that if I don't get help and change it will be the ruin of our marriage.

My husband has ADD, takes multiple meds, sees a doctor twice a month ( for free.. Husband gave him stock in the company!)

He has been on meds for 10 years or so and seeing the therapist that long.  I see NO big changes.

We have no money for me to go to a therapist.

Husband is self employed and always on the verge of making it big.

I'm waiting. He has done well in the past but not in the last 3 years, plus we lost everything when the market crashed two years ago.

We've been married 34 years and have two grown married children.

I got married last year to a lovely man. At the time I knew this man had organizational problems and was a bit scattered but I had no idea to what extent. I have been lurking around the forums and blog all week and I am seeing the same patterns in my relationship that I am reading here. The most glaring issues being chore distribution and his apparent subconsious need to bankrupt us.

Hi

Marriage counseling is a form of psychotherapy given to married couples to resolve marital problems. Most problems can be solved with a short counseling session. Sometimes a prolonged therapy is required in which the husband and wife meet the counselor individually and collectively several times. These sessions also help you improve your relationship with spouse by straightening behavioral problems and correcting emotional and mental disorders.

I was given a list of questions to answer and since that thread is so long now its confusing I thought I'd just start a new one.

I need help.  I'm the non-ADHD wife married to an ADHD husband.  I have to get out of the marriage.  Things are too far gone for repair, he says he's trying but nothing really changes.  Mentally, I'm a wreck.  Completely burned out and still expected to keep things going.  I've been hospitalized three days a few years ago for suicidal depression and last December I made an attempt.  I am seeing a therapist who keeps telling me that "me time" is a necessity for me.  I'm taking as much as I can but its not enough.  Even when things are going all right, I can't enjoy them.  The moment I start,

This is going to sound silly, after all the hot discussions we've had lately, but here goes...

How can an ADD person not remember to let the water out of the bathtub? I never find this out until I go to take my shower, and can't.

If I ask him, he'll say he did let it out, even though he clearly didn't. How can someone who is properly medicated be so far out in ADD Land that they don't know you are supposed to let the water out when you are done? It means it gets more soap scum, etc. and I have to clean it.

Something has been bothering me all morning.  I was on here earlier and was going over posts and keep seeing from folks with ADD/ADHD saying that the non-ADHD/ADD partners have too high expectations.  I am so not able to understand this line of thinking because I keep coming back to the fact that the non-partner is the one doing most or even all life "tasks".  How are we, then the ones with too many or too high of exepctations?  My husband expects that he has clean clothes, dishes and food in the house when he is hungry or needing clothes to put on, regardless if he has bot

I keep reading things like, it's not all the ADHD/ADD causing the problems in a marriage, which to a certain degree I get.  I get that my anger can influence how things go in a relationship but at that same time I have never been this angry in my life before.  Now I am not perfect, far from it but I have never had problems with someone like this in my whole life.  I am typically easy going and friendly.  Most of my relationships are good, except the one with my husband who has ADHD.  He seems to be the only one to think I am this cold, mean, criticizing person.  There is not one person that

I found this article on the net. I thought it might help both the ADHD and non-ADHD spouse when they are angry and trying to understand. There are some great points, yet they don't diminish the frustration on either side.

It can't be all about the ADHD!

“Bruce” (not his real name) was desperate for help: his wife had demanded he find a doctor to diagnose his ADHD … or else. He had emailed me for a recommendation, but I knew there was a lot more going on/wrong in his marriage than either of them realized.