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I understand that men and women communicate differently, but I really think it is an entirely different world for an ADD mate and a non-ADD spouse.  My husband was diagnosed 2 years ago at his own suspicion of what was *wrong* with him, and his progress is somewhat erratic though he has good intentions.  We are actively working on getting him a new coach, we have some things we're working on from the AD/HD conference, and he takes his meds almost like he is supposed to.  Not perfect, but decent improvement all in all.

There is so much pain on this site, a lot of us have bled and cried over these issues. This isn't that kind of question! For those of you who are crying in the first flush of realization of how your mate's ADD has affected both your lives, this will seem petty.

I go to school 3 nights a week. I started when I realized I was probably going to have to support him indefinitely, as he had gone 5 months without even applying for a job. He's working now, but we made a joint decision that I should finish my degree.

I just found this great site and it seems so helpfull that I decided to share my own experience, to vent, to get a second opinion and yes, maybe some sympathy too. 

Compromising between for example the zoo or the beach is a realistic task.  But is there any compromising between decent and disgusting table manners?

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I am totally shocked right now, because last night I discovered that my husband has been engaging in chat room sex with at least one man.  He has apologized and says it hasn't happened that often, but I'm not sure I believe him.  He also blames me for criticizing him so much that he no longer finds me sexually attractive.  We've had a troubled sex life for years, with my husband unable to achieve or maintain an erection.  I've always attributed it to our strained relationship and the fact that I assumed he masturbated frequently and had gotten used to a different type of stimulation.  I nev

Why is so difficult to convince people with ADHD that they have a problem and get them to seek help?  It's astounding to me that after everything we've been through together, my husband still goes on the attack when I try to discuss help for him.  He's called me names, said hurtful things about my family and me, blamed his misbehavior on me...  Over the years, his ADHD has gotten worse, and yet I've stayed with him 20 years.  I understand defensiveness, but my husband is not a stupid man.  Why can't he see all the evidence and realize how much fuller his life would be and how much better he

My marriage has been a minefield--full of surpising, crushing disappointments that have seemed to come out of the blue-- since day one, and it is only 12 years into it that I finally understand that my husband has ADHD. It's a giant AHA!-- like someone rang a giant gong that made some sense of my world! Raised in a family in which I was isolated as a child, I must have normalized all the feelings of abandonment and worthlessness and rage that have come tumbling down on me in this marriage...

Sorry I'm posting this in this area but no one seems to read the stuff under therapy/help and all that :)

Good day, everyone,

Thanks for providing a place to read and talk about these issues. My husband and I will have been married 5 years next Friday. The problems with his ADHD are just becoming more acute, however. I am trying to turn things around so we can make some progress.

I found this site a while back and it prolonged my marriage to my ADHD/OCD/Bipolar husband.  Unfortunately I stopped coming here because it seemed better when I was taking all responsibility and giving him room to be a man with emotional/mental illness.

I'm a little angry.