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Hi, I am the non-ADHD partner of a severely ADHD, non-managed, non-medicated husband and I'm fast approaching my wits end.

We've been married nearly 4 years and I feel that I was so naive to take on someone with his level of problems. Depressed, obese, long term unemployed. Never had a job. Has all the classic ADHD traits, talks over people, often comes across badly to others, cant finish anything, bad with money, I take on all the responsibility. I'm the sole breadwinner. Im burnt out.

First post to this community. 
I am a 2-mos newlywed and only discovered my husband's ADHD a few months before we got married. I had zero idea what adult ADHD was and meant. Zero idea. I can look back now and see why everything got SO bad right after we got engaged and he moved in. Yes, we had difficulties before that but I thought they were just communication problems. 

Hello all,

Help.  My ADHD husband makes me mad.  We have been married for 3 years.  Our child is 2 years old.  For all the time with him, I experienced lies, lived for a long time with the feeling that I was being deceived (and it proved true), he does not complete anything to the end, he can freeze watching TV, he is very absent-minded, you cannot rely on him - he makes mistakes almost everywhere, he makes impulsive purchases, he interrupts, he does illogical things, I can’t calmly leave him with a child.  From a recent: the child slept in a stroller without a blanket in the evening at + 16c, came fr

I'll try not to go into too much detail because it's been such a wild ride I could easily write a novela about what I've experienced. I will preface to say that I do not think this is all because my former partner has ADHD but I question if the way this all started was due in large part to his ADHD, whether anyone else has experienced anything similar and if my gut is right about what I might expect to come in the future.

I am so tired of it seeming like everything is about my ADHD spouse. One little inconvenience to him, and it's "why didn't you help me/do that I was in pain!" but I can be sick, with a broken foot, and it's "can you do this for me?" I just want to be cared for. 

My son (8) has started asking me/telling me to leave/divorce his dad. 

I... I am speechless. 

My wife is going for an evaluation in a few weeks to determine (it's obvious) if she has Adhd.   She clearly does.  I've begun reading all the information I can get my hands on about the subject and I want to be supportive but the more I read I get bitter and more frustrated about how this has impacted my life!  We've been together 20 years.  I've done so much to keep our household going over the years.  Working 60 hour weeks, running children everywhere, doing household chores that I don't have time to do while my wife has done so little and has never held a real job.   

I am struggling with how best to respond to my husband's instant defensiveness if he feels he's being criticized. He's medicated but I don't feel the meds help much with his emotional outbursts and getting defensive about the smallest things. I've started peri menopause so I'm more moody myself and I do everything I can to treat it and utilize healthy coping/self care. My husband takes meds but doesn't practice much else in terms of self care. He claims he doesn't have time. This frustrates me but I've given up bugging him about it.

I recently came across this website and am currently reading ADHD effect on Marriage. I am grateful for these resources and this is my first post on here. I am the non-ADHD spouse and I have suffered immensely as a result of my wife's ADHD symptoms. She has also recently been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and I believe she take meds to address both conditions.

My girlfriend and I both have adhd but hers is much more severe. 

She always diagnoses everyone as adhd despite knowing very little about them, even sometimes just hearing someone talk about a person she feels she has enough information to diagnose them. It causes conflict when I sometimes dismiss her "diagnosis" as there is no way she could possibly have attained enough information about a person to make such a call.

Does anyone else find their partner seeing ADHD in everyone and assuming his/her diagnosis is unchallengable ?