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Part of me is scared to type but I feel like I can't keep my feelings in any longer.  I've given a million percent to my husband with ADHD and knew his problems before we got married.  Maybe I thought I could help him and my love would carry us thru.  I don't feel that way anymore.  I'm angry, depressed, confused, etc...just too many emotions and I feel like I'm aging years as the days go on...I'm only in my early 30s.  

I have read a number of the posts regarding sexual desire and some related to erectile dysfunction related to those with ADD/ADHD. I, however, have a different sexual dysfunction- premature ejaculation. I am in my late twenties now, and the problem first showed itself when I was 22 or 23, but has been prevalent ever since. I have tried therapy, the stop start method, medicine (zoloft), other counseling with my wife, all to no avail. 

a while ago I posted something here about when to divorce my husband who has ADHD.  I got some feedback which was helpful.  I have decided to go into counseling myself and even the therapist saw the amount of anger and resentment as a key point.  However for me what was driving behing alot of the anger and resentment was a lot of anxiety.  I never know what to expect day to day living with someone like this.  I am now on an anti-anxiety medication.  I walk...I do yoga...

 

While my husband has  ADD… doesn’t lose things,  is helpful  with chores etc., nice guy, just he struggles mostly with processing of information and gets overwhelmed and cannot plan things well or move forward. He is going to CHADD meetings and finally “seeing the light”, because he has finally identified with someone who understands his struggles etc….I feel blessed we have found some direction and answers to stop our madness.. BUT……

First of all, I want to say thank you to Dr. Hallowell and Melissa Orlov for such an incrediby helpful site.

I am an ADHD spouse. I am 39 and have been married to my wife for 15 years. I was diagnosed with very mild Asperger's Syndrome (AS) at the age of 37 and then at 38 my therapist suggested I may have NLD instead. Bottom line: Both I and my doctors believe  that I am somewhere on the "high end" of the autism spectrum and until about 5 months ago, all of my treatments and coping strategies focused on that.

I am not done with the relationship.  I'm done with life.  I am a ADD spouse.  Until I read this column I had no idea that I caused so much pain in the life of others around me.  My entire marriage I have tried to please my wife.  I do not go out with friends, I devote my entire non working life to her.  I have distanced myself from my narcissistic mother, left my business partners due to my hyperfocus at work, so I could spend more time with my spouse.  I have tried to change my sex life, to accomodate her needs.  I have tried to put the family first in all my life.  I am utterly unsucessf

I am in a relationship with a partner who I have known for almost 20 years and recently (4 years ago) we decided to become romantically involved. We've been living together for a little over a year and it's been a difficult transition for both of us.

Hi everyone-I'm new to the forum. I'm ordering some books and beginning to search for help/treatment after having to diagnose my husband myself (isn't that the way these relationships tend to go??? If it's going to be done, you've got to do it yourself???)

I'm reading "Living with ADD When You're Not the One Who Has It".   One statement hit me square between the eyes...."Some people with attention deficit disorder tend to seek stimulation in the form of conflict".  I know that there are just times when my husband has approached me to "pick a fight".....no reason.  Now I see that he was looking for a stimulus.  After many years of fighting back, I began to see that he just wanted to fight and tried my best to not take the bait.  That's hard because he knows all of my "hot buttons" and is a very good manipulator.  I guess he's learned that he c