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I am happy to find this forum. I have never written on one before, but I am a 52 yearold school teacher whose husband ran away with a 25 year old 4 years ago. I am quite certain, after a 29 year marriage, he had some psychological problems. That, however is another story.

I have been seeing another teacher for almost a year now, and I am astounded that he most certainly has a rather significant problem with ADHD. What is so amazing is that he is a special ed teacher (30 years), his 29 year old son is a special ed teacher, and many of his friends are teachers.

Does ADD has anything to do with being lazy and sleepy all the time? My fiance has difficulty getting up early and sleeping at an early hour. He always finds it hard to be on time for work. Im so scared that this will cause him problems at work and i know that the ADD affects his performance. How can i help him without beating him down or making him feel bad about himself? Is this laziness due to ADD or is it something personal that is only due to plain laziness???

My fiance has ADD. He is loving, sweet and caring, yet impatient, impulsive and disorganized. I didnt understand him at first. But then we talked about ADD and how it caused him some problems at work before. He always tells me to be patient with him and that he promises to get better. My question is on how to give him the support he needs? And we have another issue: we have a communication problem. He tends to get aggressive and defensive eve if we're only chit chatting. I would like to avoid these tensions and help him focus more.

I need advice and some useful practical tips.

In reading through this site I've read some great advice for dealing with your own, or your husband/wife's AD/HD. I was wondering if anyone had any advice for couples (like me and mine) who BOTH have AD/HD or ADD?

I probably should wait to post or maybe this is not really appropriate for here. ( i think it is appropriate becuase it has to do with my ADHD and it affecting my marriage. If it is not I apologize.) this but I am wondering.... I have been ahving issues reagrding my ADHD and my marraige. Real quick startee about a year ago had been hyperfocusing on wife somthering her (overbearing). Didn't know that I was doing it. Fastforward got diagnosed with ADHD realzied that i had some thing to fix, thought that it would make it better.

My husband was diagnosed with ADD about a year after we were married, after he lost 6 jobs in a year. He was 45. ADD is not one of the things treated by our local mental health agency. I had to pay for his treatment out of pocket because we had no isurance. He takes meds and seems to understand what is going on, but they don't really help. He's done a lot of things which have endangered me, which I've posted about before.

Now what I'm writing about is, this is apparently as good as it gets and it's not good enough. I can't deal with the consequences.

Me and my wife have been married 12 years and i am lost she found out she has ADD i am like ok that is what the Doc says less go with it. she can not keep anything organizied before she started the medicine. things seemed to get better even with sex everyone would say that is great. but here is where it goes off the track she does a lot of research on her side with ADD but does not see my side i say something and she gets a whole another meaning out of it.

Greetings All!

It will soon be a year since I first came to this site with many months in between my last post.  My problems came to a peek when my ADD husband after I left the home began to fight me for the custody of our 2 children.  It truly got as bad as bad could get my “boy next door, good Christian man and best friend” became the most deceptive, malicious and irresponsible man I have ever met.  Despite my fears and pleas for assistance for intervention from “our mutual friends and family” for over 11 years, because I left my husband; I received no assistance. 

Last night I was on this site, I really needed to assess where I am and if I am on the right track with myself emotionally.  Now that my husband and I are no longer together, I see this site as a tie to stay connected to what was my reality.