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Hi all - first post after finding this via Google.

I've read a lot of posts that give me great comfort in knowing I am not alone in this, but also a lot of fear that things really do not change and if I should carry on with this relationship.

I met my husband in 2016, he was diagnosed with ADHD in 2018 and we married in 2019.  I feel like his diagnosis has been detrimental to our marriage as ever since it's like his symptoms have been heightened and as if he plays up to it or hides behind it rather than taking control.

Hello all,

So this just happened:

H has not worked for a few years. Retired.  He used to have a business that he conducted from a large room we call the office.  It is piled high with things like receipts from 5 to 25 years ago - dirty and musty papers and decades old files all over.  No horizontal space open. I have been telling him that I would like to clean it up and use the room as a craft room/tv-room.  We have a living room, dining room and a very large den.  This room is now a very large hoarding storage space that it is impossible to clean. It is starting to smell.

Hello everyone,

I m new here and I feel so much relief that I found this forum...The words I m reading here pretty much give me answer on everything and make me realize I m not the only one feeling that way.

I don t know why I m writing but I think my heart just wants to cry out.

I have a medical backround and do not put a stamp on him or anyone with any "illness".

Hello 

I'm reaching out to people who were previously in relationships where the partner has adhd. Mine ended in the last couple of weeks, I'm sleeping so much better and can make sense of things logically but do miss him and my heart feels broken. 
I know every story is different but how long did it take to feel less consumed by it, did they ever try and mess with your head to come back and have you gone on to have a relationship with an a typical partner and hope that compares? 
thanks 

Hi, I have been married with my husband for 12 yrs who has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD since he was 5 years old. We also have a daughter that's also been diagnosed with ADD. For some reason, as he get older, everytime I ask him to do things for me like simple chores: taking the trash out or doing the dishes. He always forgets it. For some reason he always w8 till I'm about to blow up until he does something. When he does finally do it he acts like a child that just got in trouble. Now everything just sets him off.

My wife finally got a prescription for Methylphenid 5mg.  It is a 5mg dose, which I assume is low to start of with and see how it works before building up.

The psychiatrist said she should take it "as needed."  She doesn't know what "as needed" means and has not taken it because she does not feel that she has needed it.  She is also worried about possible side effects.

My 2.5 year relationship with undiagnosed adhd partner ended last week.So many issues discussed on this forum were experienced, lack of employment, lack of focus on most things unless it was fun ideally playing cricket/cycling/rugby, attention seeking aka flirting, l ask of empathy most of the time.

Hello everyone. I am new here. I am so grateful for the internet and that I’ve come across this page and forum. I have been reading so much and a lot of things are starting to make sense now. My story: I’m a non ADHD wife who’s been married for only 11 months. Our journey together has been a ROLLER COASTER. 3 different councilors and finally this 4th one has diagnosed my husband with ADHD. He should be getting on medication writhing a few weeks. I am really praying that this would be the missing piece. I feel like I am in a emotionally abusive relationship, he could be so cold and mean.

I will start by saying I have ADHD, and I a married to a.man who also has ADHD. I am the one who takes on the role of the non-adhd spouse. We have 1 child together. He was diagnosed in childhood but didn't want to stay on meds. He has been on meds.for about a year now.   I was diagnosed in adolescence, stayed on meds for the last 16 years and don't feel as though I have any major struggles with functioning in my day to day life. I am not perfect.  I hate cleaning, and often don't acknowledge or notice messes as they accumulate.