Recent forum posts (all topics)

Positive Report from Non ADHD Spouse

I am somewhat new to this forum. I do check it every morning. It has saved me and my marriage. I am grateful to have found Melissa's book and site. I would like to give a positive report from the Non ADHD spouse to give possible hope to others. 4 months ago I had no hope and was planning my escape in my new marriage of almost 3 years. I went from depression, severe anxiety, anger and bitterness to content and hopeful in the last 4 months. I read Melissa's book last year. I was still bitter and resentful. My husband then got medicated which we are still fixing.

Help - Parenting with an ADHD Partner

I need help and I do not know where to turn. I am at the point where I have become resentful of my spouse and my resentment builds inside with frustration and then comes out in unhelfpul ways. And I acknowledge that this is one of the pieces of the puzzle. But I need help beyond that. My partner and I have been married for 7 years, and we have a 5 year old son. We were living abroad while I did my phd and returned home recently and my wife resumed her medical work while I transitioned into work too.

Question on low sex drive for ADHD Husband

First let me say I love this forum. It has saved me the last few months of wanting to walk out of my marriage. I have felt no so alone and understood for the first time.  I am the Non ADHD Spouse and married almost 3 years to my recently diagnosed ADHD Husband. The last month I have waived the white flag and decided I needed to accept the reality of my marriage and my relationship.

Inattentive ADHD. Consequences for Their Actions That Harm Others.

Hello ADHD Marriage.  I really hope you allow this to post.  I'm in a great deal of emotional pain.  I need others to know what it's like being a non ADHD.  I'm not blaming.  I know I have work to do.  Yet, I am experiencing some hard times.

I have a friend and business partner who has ADHD.  I've known him for 23 years.  We are in business together and we cannot separate the business for financial reasons. 

Non ADHD Husband vs ADHD Wife

Hello all. Wish i had found this site sooner. Even if, i am not sure it would have made a difference. This does seem therapeutic putting into words my struggles with my wife. About my wife... Genuinely a giving, hard working, quirky, sometimes loving, child like woman whom "in the beginning" i was madly in love with. Me, i am the Epmath, the Savior, the do everything to avoid the inevitable EXPLOSIVE, MANIC episodes that have become more and more frequent over time. My wife and i are both 56... Same generation, Same music, Same TV shows, We "click"..

Getting ur partner to believe in your intentions

Non-ADHD spouses, how did or have ur partners gotten you to believe in their good intentions again? I struggle with extreme emotions and tend to avoid difficult conversations, but also can get overly fixated on a potential issue and "pick" at my wife until she loses her cool. So that even if it wasn't an issue before it is now. I can't seem to find a balance between these two extremes so now when I don't ask about something my wife assumes it's because I don't care and do not want to know.

Looking for ideas to make partner feel special

Hi all,

Been reading as much as I can about the perspectives of Non-partners (and ADHD partners) on here and it's really heartbreaking but eye opening, especially recognizing it in our own marriage. I though i'd try to reach out the community for ideas on little and easy ways to make my Non-partner feel special and appreciated. So many times I though of extravagant, elaborate ideas and just failed to start or start and then get distracted, or just get overwhelmed. So last few times kept it simple, like hiding notes of appreciation in different places for my partner to find.

in DESPERATE need of some help

Hello everyone,

Happy new year!

I hope you're all well and enjoying your day.

I am in an extremely difficult situation with my partner which is making me unwell as he refuses to understand that he may need some help.

Upon first meeting him 4 years ago there was various comments of difficulties at work, from small inconveniences to him reversing a truck backwards through a garage at the work yard. As it was a new relationship i didn't think much of it and to be honest most things were laughed off. 

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