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Married for 39 years to someone who was diagnosed years ago, tried medication, but was not convinced it was for him. He has managed to be fairly successful in his business, but finances have always been a topic we could not discuss since he felt I was overly concerned about budgeting and planning for future. His idea of a budget is to "make more money" to pay the bills.

Non-adhd partner here. Lately, everything seems to be "my fault." My mood swings, my irritability, my inability to trust that he'll get things done that he'll say he'll do. We are now stuck in this endless blame game. Yes, I know I'm exhausted. I work full-time and am working hard to get promoted. I also am taking 3 classes on the side. I'm applying to PhD programs. My mom has stage 4 lung cancer. My dad has health issues too, and they're both dying. I am in therapy 3xs a week. What more do I need to be doing, in all seriousness?

We left on Sunday.  There were problems right away as the twelve-year-old started complaining about fatigue and pains (which have been investigated with no cause found and are probably somatic) at the museum.  We then went to an amusement park.  Lots of complaining and conflict.  12 year old had a great time in the wave pool, but then my wife and I wanted to go on a specific rollercoaster.  They complained that we wouldn't be able to go on another roller coaster if we went on that one first.  My wife as getting pulled in and angry.  I proposed that I take the 12 year old to the roller coast

I have been married for over 20 years. I was diagnosed almost two years ago and just started taking medication a little over a month ago. My wife had been telling/asking me to get help for as long as I can remember. I always asked why there's nothing wrong with me. Boy was I wrong. My wife is the love of my life and the reality of what I put her through all these years is heartbreaking. I had an online affair....I checked out on our marriage for awhile I was never home and left her to take care of our two young children and the household. Then she got pregnant with our third child.

Hello all, 

Hi everyone, just read the book, now joined the forum.

I'd been a stay at home dad for a few years now, thinking I was being self-sacrificing and doing the right thing, giving myself too much credit tbh - when I now realize I was just escaping the stress ADHD created in my professional life. Seeking to be my own boss, own my own organization attempts. Well it turns out a lot of that backfired and I became increasingly controlling and irritated (and scary) causing wife and family to pull back, and it finally came down all at once.

Hi everyone 

ive been posting about my partner who has been diagnosed with ADD. We are separated and he got diagnosed after we separated. I didn't realise he had ADD whilst we were together mainly because he very tactfully made everything my fault and I believed him. Nwys after much overthinking I've realised he also has symptoms of Autism. Has anyone else experience with their Adhd partners also having autism? He's high functioning and nobody believes he has ADD let alone anything else. He masks it very well.

My husband, we've been together 10 years has recently been diagonsed with ADHD (a lot fell into place) but the medication has changed him over the last 6 months.

Not for the better, apart from he does a little bit more around the house in terms of housekeeping, but that's the only improvement. 

He also smokes about a gram of weed per day (we live in the Netherlands where this is legal) 

I just came across this community and felt like it might be helpful to share my story / current situation.  I've been in a 6.5 year relationship with a VERY ADHD partner.  We were best friends for almost 10 years before we started dating (since high school)....we have a lot of the same interests, he makes me laugh, is fun, smart, hardworking, and one of my favorite people.  However, the relationship has literally never been easy.  I feel like we have had to work so hard at it and it's honestly just exhausted me [beyond repair, I'm worried].