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I love this site and how poitive it is. I don't like talking about divorce but my non-adhd wife has decided to leave me. We have a 6-yo and a 3-yo girl and boy. I'm devastated. Ever since we started a family the negative parts of adhd krept in - anxiety over money, providing a good enough life for my wife and kids, insecurity of whether i was being a good enough husband and father, shame over making little mistakes. That's when i hurt my wife. When I would become overwhelmed with negative thoughts I didn't know how to communicate it to her. So she would feel lonely and shut out.

My Dearest Energizer Bunny

Hello all,

This is my first post. My husband has ADHD, its been diagnosed and treated with medication his whole life. 

I am relieved to stumble upon this website today after spending the morning searching for strategies / tips for dealing with ADHD in our marriage. My husband was diagnosed with ADHD almost 10 years ago after his daughter was diagnosed and since then, I have read about symptoms, strategies, and tips for her that helped her get through school.

Hi,

I am new here (non ADD), and I know that every relationship and ADD person is different, but do any of you non-ADD-female partner have some advice on how not be afraid of arguments?

I used to take two 20 mg quick release tablets of adderall a day. Now I'm on one 30 mg extended release tablet per day. I understand that the XR tablets only last for 8-10 hours. That's great for my work day but what about when I'm with my wife and kids in the evening? I find I crave caffeine to continue to stimulate my brain. 

Should I take my XR tablet later in the day?

Should I look into more longer lasting medication?

Should I stick with the caffeine?

(classic ADHD question) Am I overthinking this?

Once in a while, I check in here, seeing if there are any experiences that mirror mine. It took me a while to realize that no matter how close, everyone's experience is incredibly different. So, this is mine...

When I first met my now wife, she was funny, impulsive, opinionated (not as a pejorative), intelligent and used that intelligence well. She's still all of that, and each has its advantages and disadvantages.

My wife was diagnosed with ADHD when she high school and has learned to work with it over the years. She is not on any medication.
ADHD does run in her family, both her sister and father have it.
Since our relationship started I have learned more about ADHD than expected and have learned what she needs and how her focus and attention guides a lot of her interests and needs.

The one thing I have struggled with her lately, is that she feels like she needs to explain everything. 

I finally read the ADHD book with my spouse. Well we listened to the book on tape.

Cutting to the chase: One month ago I found this book and it scared me with how much it matched my marriage. My wife read it as well.