There is a very interesting forum conversation going on that I would like to highlight here for those who are interested in whether or not they should continue dating someone with ADHD. In a nutshell, the original poster is nervous about whether or not the problems she sees in her relationship with her boyfriend with ADHD will always be present or if they can be improved. Her fear that he might not be able to “change,” or that the side of him she sees now is just hyperfocus courtship (i.e. not the “real” him) is keeping her from emotionally investing in the relationship. What’s really interesting about this conversation is the very thoughtful responses she has received from those who have been in the ADHD/marriage trenches. If you are interested in contributing to this topic or just seeing what is going on, I urge you to go to this link. Please, no “run!” responses – there are plenty of those around and they aren’t as helpful as the posters often think they are.
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/02/2011.