It struck me today how much my husband amuses me. Im not sure if its like this for other people, but ADHD makes my husband pretty spontaneous in his responses to questions and his actions. It's never ever boring or predictable. Also, he seems perfectly okay with making good natured fun of himself and being silly just for the sake of being silly.
He looked puzzled late one night and it seemed like he was really trying to figure something serious out. I asked him what was wrong, and his response was "I was putting together a rhythmic gymnastics routine in my head! You know, the one with the ribbon that goes like this? (he flailed wildly) Yeah. I'd be AWESOME at it." Because...of course. OF COURSE thats what he was thinking about. LOL, crazy guy.
He likes going on adventures, and everything actually is an adventure with him. He wants to pick up old cookbooks at thrift shops, and decides to make the first recipe he sees no matter what it is. We go on drives just to get lost and see if we can take in some new sights. I've learned about so many cool little stores and restaurants that I never would have found on my own, simply because I always take the most efficient path from point A to point B and dont take enough time to look around.
He feels it's perfectly acceptable-- and it is!-- to serenade me with show tunes that he changes the lyrics to, to suit whatever I happen to be doing at the time. He hugged me during a commercial, and turned it into the advertising jingle waltz. Why? Well... why not?
As someone who tends to be overly serious at times, his ADD tinged sense of fun and spontaneity really are a blessing. I might be the one who makes sure that all necessary business is taken care of.... but really, he's the one who makes it fun and worthwhile.
Submitted by HurtButHopeful on
That is so awesome!! He sounds like a lot of fun in that regard...not all ADHDers have that at all....mine sure didn't...but kuods to you for sharing some of his positive characteristics here with us and focusing on THEM for a while instead of all the hard ones.
Perhaps he'll make the next Olympic team for Rhythmic Gymnastics?! : )
Haha! Well, considering that
Submitted by pitypotpie on
Haha! Well, considering that he's a middle aged guy who was medically retired from the military for a really bad back and has no idea how to do a cartwheel, let alone a triple back flip twist thing, I think he has a lot of work to do if he wants to make the olympic team. ;)
Im really sorry that your spouse didnt have the 'fun' characteristics. You know, sometimes I'm just ready to tear my hair out, but this entertaining, happy-to-be-absurd trait seems to put things back on a more even keel and I remember that he's not perfect, but I sure do like him anyway. I dont know how Id feel about him if he didnt have this.
I think he developed a class clown mentality as a coping strategy when he was a kid, just to deal with all eyes being on him and his erratic behavior anyway. He's really not a mean spirited person at all, and he loves making people laugh. It makes for a noisy household, and a ridiculous one, but hey... it really is fun.
There is so much negativity on these forums, and while I totally understand and share many of the same frustrations, I dont think that ignoring the positives to keep focused on the negatives is really productive, at least for my relationship. It just seems unfair. The fact that he would forget his head if it wasnt attached to his shoulders doesnt cancel out the fact that he is really fun to be around, you know? Those things arent mutually exclusive. :)
Thanks for your comment. If and when he does make the Olympic team, Ill save you a seat for the viewing party! :-P
Submitted by HurtButHopeful on
Who are we to hold him back from his dreams?! ; )
Good luck to you both!!