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I'm the non in this (as least I think so) and we are in such a bad place, I can't even begin to figure out where to start to address it. I don't want to be in this type of marriage anymore, I don't want to model what we are modelling to our son...basically, I don't know what to do when I know I've had enough, my body/mind/soul/heart is screaming at me: 'ENOUGH" and yet... I feel stuck and not sure what to do (and acknowleding that this appears to be a prison of my own making). 

I'm the non in this (as least I think so) and we are in such a bad place, I can't even begin to figure out where to start to address it. I don't want to be in this type of marriage anymore, I don't want to model what we are modelling to our son...basically, I don't know what to do when I know I've had enough, my body/mind/soul/heart is screaming at me: 'ENOUGH" and yet... I feel stuck and not sure what to do (and acknowleding that this appears to be a prison of my own making). 

I have been married to an, until last year, undiagnosed ADHD/OCD spouse.  We have been together 31 years.  Unbeknownst to me, when we got together, he was self medicating with alcohol. The person he was when I married him is the complete opposite of the man he is today and I find myself wondering how I ever got here.  As he struggled to get his alcoholism under control, slowly but surely, the “real” him came out, along with all the ADHD symptoms.  His only love language is physical and I became so tired of feeling like a blow up doll I have no interest in sex anymore.

I’m new here and just started the ADHD Effect on Marriage audiobook and…it’s been hard. Both my wife and I have ADHD, as well as our five children who have Auhd. Everything I’ve heard we’ve gone through and it has brought me a lot of sadness. The frustration and pain my wife has gone through during our marriage was being said in the book as if someone had recorded us. We have separated for a few months and have tried to work on it for the last 3yrs but continue to hit a wall where she’s pretty much had enough. Whatever trust has eroded away, the respect is gone.

Hi All,

A session is coming up for my ADD ex and me, with our former couples therapist.

Just a note...but there used to be a poster here that went by 'J' and he wrote a lot of posts...and I noticed he hasn't posted to the site for a while...just checking if he's here and you are ok? Or if anyone knows he's alright? 

Questions I have are whether 

(a) anyone has strategies or stories for dealing with ADHD lack of ability to complete simple multi step tasks? 

(b) whether there is a difference is multi-step task completion challenges between adult and children?

Here is some background:

So I have ADHD ex wife and ADHD tween son (he youngest of 3) and rest of us not ADHD.

It has been very difficult forever to communicate basic multi-step tasks to the ADHD part of the family. 

Before I get into stuff going on with me, I want to say …

To c_ur_self,  it was nice reading how peaceful and happy things are for you.  Enjoy your peace and contentment.  : )