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Husband and I had a therapist session yesterday whereby he stated I was angry/resentful everyday. Mostly I am just exhausted trying to get things done and deal with his inconsistency. Therapist told us not to return unless we are willing to listen to each other (we have been going since February 2026).

So, my brother passed away 2 months ago, and I am still dealing with that and all that fell on me as next of kin. His Bank Accounts, Surrogate Courts in two states and it is a lot. I am also dealing with my mother who has Alzheimer's and is in a nursing home in which I take care of her. On top of all that I have deal with my wife and her ADHD. 

Hello Everyone, 

I was discarded like a piece of trash on a camping trip.   I'm so lost right now and I need help.  I wrote a 133 page deposition on what happened. I wrote down a timeline of events, the effects of another condition and everything that lead up to being thrown away by somebody who was supposed to love me.  I am grieving the loss of this marriage. I have no hope of restoration because of all of the damage. The ADHD syptoms just primarily destroyed the relationship because having them a long with a 17 year old stepdaughter who has Reactive Attachment disorder just clearly doesn't mix.

Three years now since I decided to leave my severe inattentive ADHD partner of two decades. 

What strikes me now, several weeks into vacation mode, is how raw the pain still is. Mostly, I avoid thinking of him. But when I do, it’s clear the bond is nowhere near breaking. Essentially, I loved him, ADHD and all. Essentially, I would’ve wanted to stay with him.

I've read the ADHD Effect on Marriage book 3 times, and many others as well. So I know what everyone says and the "tips and tricks". At the end of the day, my ADHD wife of 20 years just refuses to do anything about it. She says she hates the way her brain is, but has no plans to do anything on her end.

Nothing is her fault and she is not accountable for anything. She is on social media 6+ hours a day, but doesn't have time to clean or cook while I go to work and pay for everything. 

Hello Community

First time posting in this forum for me. But I am literally between a Rock and a Hard Place.

Husband always defects his behavior onto me insisting I am the problem in our relationship. While he admits how he frequently acts is not appropriate, his only response is an apology and insistence that I am justifying my behavior towards him. How different it would be if he just took responsibility for his behavior and came up with solutions to actually CHANGE rather than just tell me he will immediately fix it (since that does not happen). I am so overdone with this attitude.

My husband  (ADHD and dyslexia at 46) said to me recently how he thinks Ive been a lot friendlier and Ive gotten back to more "me"and i dont seem to be as angry or taking things as personally. I wasnt really sure what to say back except thank you, because ive had a big inner turmoil for a bit and Ive really shut myself down when it comes to him and our marriage. 

i love my partner very much and for the last 7 years his ADHD has just gonnen to a new level that i want to scream i work and look after the house and look after him and our furkids but sometimes i just feel like im a cleaner house wife and everything else our conversations are so confussing we will talk about onething and before i even know it he is on 20 different subjects and i find if i dont say the right thing or i dont know it ends in this big fight im really trying to understand ADHD and im trying to find ways to communicate better but im just not getting anywhere please help me