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I haven't posted here in years, not sure when the last time was. I'm now 14 years into my marriage to a highly ADHD man with probably other issues. PTSD perhaps from a traumatic childhood, and not a small amount of NARC. 

We’re navigating a separation where ADHD plays a big role (time blindness, conflict spirals, paperwork overwhelm). If you used mediation instead of a full court battle, what made it easier/harder?

Things I’m curious about:

• How you handled appointment scheduling and follow-through (reminders, shared calendars?)

So those who have been following my story, we got the official report for my 12 yo son - he's not autistic OR adhd. 

I was actually shocked big time. I wasn't sure on the autism but with my spouse's unmanaged adhd after being diagnosed 3 years ago, I felt certain my son was going to be diagnosed. 

In the last ADHD Partner group, I said I would share my Habit Tracker and Brain Dump sheet.  I forgot to get the emails of those who wanted it.  This is for anyone who struggles, like me, to make sure I get the things done that I need to do on a daily basis.  I created this in Google Sheets.  You can click on the link to open and then choose Make a Copy under the File menu or choose Download to edit it and make it your own.

Hey everyone, looking for some support/help/relatiability..... 

We've unfortunately gone through a tragedy with saying goodbye to an immediate family member dying suddenly. While he was older, he got sick quickly and just went so quickly, it's been a whirlwind of 10 days. In the time our family member got sick, he passed away less than a week later and then we had the funeral and services that are relevant for the country I live in super fast - which is normal by the culture here. 

My husband has ADHD that he is not being treated for/managing. I find myself reading all of the books and listening to all of the podcasts, trying to understand what is going on and how I can help (I have some anxiety based attachment issues) but felt I needed some support from this group and others who might be feeling what I’m feeling. 

I cannot say this is the hardest thing I've ever had to go thru, but its definitely equal to the worst. There's no easy way around it, you just have to go through it and it's very  painful. Even if you've done it before, it still never gets easier.

This time however, I'm paying attention and doing things differently than in the past.  It doesn't make the pain going away, but it does help tell me where I am in the process. For me, it's a little less scary this way.

I'm not sure what to do about my current situation - moreso about taking steps in the right direction and not just burying my head in the sand.... but my spouse has just deteroirated before my eyes over the last 2-3 years. Moreso in the last 6-10 months. It's just nothing any of us do is getting through that there's an issue or a problem. Not that HE'S the problem, it's the unmanaged symptoms and its that he just doesn't handle stress AT ALL. He can't handle life or stress or any of it. 

I've been married to my spouse with likely ADHD for about 5 years.  We have a son together and another child on the way.  Prior to getting pregnant (maybe the past 3-6 months especially), my spouse and I were in a much better place that we had ever been.  He was carrying his weight with our child, we were both working full time, we were communicating well, and we were generally getting along well.

If you’ve spent two decades watching your social and other life crumble because of your spouse’s ADHD, how do you then let go of your people pleasing?