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My husband and I recently got into an argument over where to spend Christmas this year. Previously, we had agreed to go to my in-laws’ house for Thanksgiving and then stay up here, near my parents, for Christmas. I thought this was more than fair since last year we went to my in-laws for both holidays due to the fact that a family member had passed down there recently and his side of the family needed more comfort and emotional support. In 2017, we visited my parents for Christmas and he acted terribly.

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I've known this man for most of my life -- since high school, and we are in our late 50's now. We began an intimate relationship in 2001 that ended in 2006 with me wandering away confused and hurt after 4 years of truly bizarre behavior on his part (much of which I documented in writing then, and could have been written today). We reunited in 2018, and things seemed much better for a few months until the same behavior resurfaced.

My 20 year marriage has died largely as a result of undiagnosed ADHD/Autism spectrum (high-functioning) on the part of my spouse, along with the coping and camouflaging, and the PTSD she surely experienced as a child growing up in an undiagnosed ADHD/Narcissist/Histrionic/Anxiety/OCD household (her parents and siblings).  We have two adolescent children.  Her denial strategies are deep, deeper than our marriage.

It has been 3 years since finding this site. It has helped me so much...I need to "talk" recent events out here now.Been married for 45 years. (Me 65 H  67)Took marriage course alone. Tried to get ADHD  H  to participate with saved sessions. H sluffed thru 2 of them but claims he did all. I have worked on me really hard.  got Bipolar 2 dx, lost 80 lbs, exercise, hobbies, quit the nagging, got it together. Things were great for a while despite H refusal to accept ADHD & even basic treatments. Says he is stubborn, doesn't want to and its too hard.. Recently we both regressed.

Hi there. So, a little background. My husband is 32 and I'm 34 and we have three beautiful little boys together, ages 5 and a half and under. We have been married for almost 7 years (this December). I believe he has ADHD, as he was diagnosed and medicated (Ritalin) as a child and still displays many of the symptoms to this day (he's not on meds now and hasn't been for years). His bio father also has ADHD. He is adopted and has wonderful adoptive parents. 

Wondering if all ADDers love the sound of their own voice. My DH talks a lot. He never met a person who wasn't his great and wonderful friend. Very social and inappropriately friendly. But when it comes to things that do need to be talked about or communicated he refuses. He seems to be limited to weather talk and gossip. Or chattering about himself. Is this an add thing?

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My question is do you think people can change.

I made the mistake of going on to another site and making some comments on a subject. I turned my email notifications off for this site so that if people responded to my post I wouldn't be getting notified anymore.

I made a mistake this morning of going back onto this site just to read what other people are posting. I noticed that someone had responded to one of my comments. They blasted me it was horribly critical, and now I'm crying and upset. Not the way I want to start my day.

I have started reading Melissa's book and had built up so much hope just because she is totally describing my relationship.  It has made me feel like I am not crazy for wanting to stay in it - we are engaged, and I said yes because I *want* to marry him, I *want* to build a life together, but I still have doubts.