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When you converse with one of us, and in response to something you've said, we begin to work on a task, probably impulsively, it is difficult for us to shift our attention back into an ordinary kind of conversation. This raises the issue of the facets of this disorder. Paying attention involves more than zooming-in on a topic and staying fixed on it, although that's very important, obviously. To interact effectively with our world and the various demands we all face, we must be able to zoom-out at will, too. That's tricky. Even with meds, my brain doesn't like repositioning itself.

we, ADHDers, expect that much of the time, you can't hear us, either. I suspected that you faked hearing just like I did. Remember when the limo driver caught Elaine hearing?

So, when I tell you something, I often don't believe you've actually heard me and ergo I won't be held accountable.

"It’s incredibly fulfilling work – I get the honor of helping couples learn to love again and keep their families intact." Ms. Orlov

Of all things anyone can aspire to and to achieve during his/her lifetime that is of ultimate importance, it is exactly what Ms. Orlov and her team are doing. Children need loving parents who strive together to make a healthy, warm, nurturing environment and everyone needs to love and to be loved. To dedicate one's life to assist families to reestablish loving bonds is the summum bonum. 

My wife lost her debit card last Thursday.  I was under the impression that she did the right thing and canceled it.

She borrowed my card on Wednesday.

Last night, she said that the bank had called about fraudulent charges and that she had to deactivate both cards.  I said that I thought she had canceled the card she lost.  She said that she did not because the bank had adviser her to put a hold on it and not cancel it in case it turned up.  I found this strange.

As you may know, I taught college for a couple years as a visiting faculty member.  I adjuncted for a few years during grad school, but promised myself I would not be one of those people who continues to adjunct years after they complete their doctorates.

This is from a recent Chronicle of Higher Education article talking about the toll of adjuncting:

So... we're not even married yet, and I am trying to make sure we don't end up falling apart later when the courtship is over and the toilet breaks...  I can see how this will be challenging at times.  I'm a pragmatist and very linear in thinking, and he's... not.  

So, last night our couples therapist laid out some "alternative" medical theories, including how not following doctor's advice about ovarian cancer had worked so well for her.  (I brought up the counter example of Bob Marely, who turned to alternative medicine for skin cancer on his foot and wound up dead.)  A lot of this was director toward my needing to stop focussing on negative things and to look for positive things.  

Is there answers for adults with add/adhd on how to have quality of life, and marriage? Is there answers for any mind types (those who may be spouses to an opposite)  in quality of life? Yes, and Yes.....So what's the problem? LOL....The problems are very clear....1) A person (any person) must be able to SEE their own behaviors and act on them...(# 1 just eliminated a large part of human society) 2) Everyone feels good about themselves, at a level that causes blindness and justification of dysfunctional living.

I have posted here before but it was a while ago.  My husband has been out of work for over 2 years, acting as a SAHD currently and trying to get on a useful treatment plan.  There are a number of problems:

1--I'm disabled but working full time and I am the main breadwinner.  The stress of our financial situation is making it hard for me to keep working full time while dealing with my health struggles but there's a limited amount I can do to help with my stress that wouldn't further strain the budget (such as cut hours or take leave).

 Hi everyone! I just made an account on this website and I wanted to introduce myself.  I am a newlywed (married for almost a year), legally blind, 980 HD, 21-year-old woman.  I am also a student pursuing my degree in social work. I came on here for two reasons; first, to let you all know that you are not alone. My husband suffers from ADHD, and we are currently trying to navigate those challenges.  I can empathize with both sides; with the non-80 HD spouse, the anger, depression, frustration, hopelessness, self hatred, and hatred for your partner.