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I’ll just start by saying I’m in therapy and I have been.  My plan is to tell my therapist Thursday that  we need to start working on my anger/frustration/resentment exclusively for a while.

The reason for that is that my husband made a relatively minor forgetful omission, and we had words about it at the dinner table.   Our 3 year old said “Mommy punishing you, Daddy” which broke my heart. We don’t even punish our son so I’m not sure where he got that.  We usually try not to have discussion in front of him.

After almost 15 yrs of a rocky marriage and 2 kids (one of  whom has ADHD), I fear the flooding my husband experiences is going to end our marriage.  I’ve tried to tolerate it.  His defense is that it only happens once in a while so I shouldn’t hold that against him or carry it as baggage in our relationship.  But, I can’t.  I’m not built for this.  He is a wonderful man with a kind heart and all the morals and good values any wife would look for.  And when he’s not held hostage by his quick temper, he is helpful and fun and attentive.

My husband has not been successful with any conventional ADHD medications. We have tried several alternative treatments and are still searching for solutions. 

I would encourage you to consider trying this over the counter supplement. My husband has been using it for about three weeks and has experienced some promising results. 

This was a question I was trying to find out when we were planning to enter marriage counseling but H sabotaged that so now we are no longer going. I did manage to ask before we ended therapy, how do I tell if he is in an ADD moment, selfish bad behavior due to poor upbringing, pain due to past spinal chord injury 25 years ago? So many issues which am I dealing with. The psychiatrist he WAS seeing said it is not my job he needs to express what the problem is. I told him given the fact communication is non existent with him I don't see that happening but ok.

Hello all, 

So, my wife and two kids were supposed to be evaluated for ADHD on Monday.

Things started off in a very ADHD manner.  Our son had a concert after the appointment.  Where were his black pants????  This caused delay, discord, and confusion on the way to the appointment.  He never found the pants, so my wife was worried that she had to find time to buy him a new pair before the concert.  (And, of course, he blew off the concert!)

Greetings:

am new to this forum and would appreciate any feedback.

Am a non-ADHD spouse married to an ADHD husband.  Over the years, a certain behavior has repeatedly shown itself.  It seems that H becomes infatuated with certain people without really knowing much about them.  These people are sometimes co-workers, trainers at the gym and other acquaintances.  They may be male or female.  It is not my impression that this behavior is sexual or romantic in nature.  It is more like a unfounded admiration.

In one ADHD book I read, the author talked about how most ADD'ers crave sugar so much that to try and make them stay away from is virtually impossible.  As soon as I  read that, I felt like he had just explained something that was at the heart of one of the biggest conflicts in our home.  I have always craved sugar so much that for most of my life I have actually essentially lived on it--as in gone days on end eating nothing but candy, cookies, milk/chocolate milk, cereal, Ovaltine, pudding.  Until I had children, I never gave this much thought.  Then, I shot myself in the foot by marrying

 I am wondering if anyone else feels guilty about your ADHD marriage and its effect on your children?  I know I do.  My husband and I have been married 21 years, and almost certainly should not have had children at all.

So I have a question.  Can the non-ADHD partners among us tell when our ADHD person is fully present vs. when they are checked out?  Here's what I mean: there are stretches of time where DH is in a normal mood, not prickly or sullen, acting normally, retaining things I say and then for no reason I can point to there will be periods of time where he is just out to lunch.  Right now he is out to lunch and has been for a few weeks.  The inconsistency of his moods is for me one of the hardest parts of living with an unmedicated ADHD adult.