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Hi All,

My husband and I will be separating soon, and I am working hard to detatch.  I know I have posted tons here, but I am really REALLY struggling with this one.

I am married to a pastor with ADHD. We have been married for 5 years. I went through the courting stage where he was hyper focused on me and his focus has been on anything but me since marriage. He has 4 grown children form a previous marriage that I love. These children however have been allowed to take advantage of me on several occasions, financially, emotionally, physically. it has taken various discussions to have any changes made. I am an outgoing person that loves the Lord and because of my commitment I honor my marriage although I am extremely unhappy.

Hi, I'm new to both the wonderful website and this blog. Within 5 minutes of exploring the internet, I came to ADHD and Marriage...and I'm so glad I did. Both my husband and my stepson have ADHD. My stepson lives both at our house and his mom's and at 18 is displaying less of the ADHD symptoms; however, when he lived with us full time, the fights and drama between him and his dad (my husband) were out of control, so although I do miss my stepson not being with us all the time, I don't miss the fighting.

I'm new here. Pretty much diagnosed my husband of 5 yrs myself.  Hubby saw a therapist this week whom he said he liked and it sounds like the guy told him he likely has ADD and they will meet next week to continue. I'm frustrated bc I was feeling so hopeful, reading the adhd effect on marriage and nodding or crying with every page, saying yes, we're on our way to treating and managing- this sucky life will end ...

Today was a weird day.  I woke up, and a sadness just hit me like a ton of bricks.  Everything was slow to start, even my normal happiness about my job didnt get my motivation going.  I had so much to do today, and I just could not focus or think straight.  All that I worked on was running late - even breakfast.  Then my cousin showed up around 10 and it was a total surprise to see her!  I guess she thought I was murdered since I didnt return a text from last night or this morning (I was on calls all morning so I didnt even have a chance LOL).  So she comes over, and we got to talking.  And

Greetings;

Ive posted on this board a few times and I have read a lot of the posts therein and they have really helped me to get a better understanding of the issues ADHD causes in relationships...

I have a quick question, I think it deals more with me rather then my ADHD spouse.

I am a very introverted person, and a very analytical person; I also work in a high stress atmosphere, I plan out my days to the hour and I really dont like any unexpected surprises. (my spouse is the complete opposite of me.)

The other day when my wife and I went to therapy together...my wife asked him straight up if he thought she had ADHD? What my therapist said was interesting. I've been seeing him for nearly 17 years now and he rarely diagnosis. It took 5 years of seeing him before ADHD even become a topic of discussion so it was interesting from my perspective...to hear him answer this for my wife now? As he said (paraphrasing here as close as possible ) "The problem with diagnosing something like this...has to do with the environment in which you put that into context in.

I'm new here. My husband is ADHD. I'm so frustrated because he never sees his fault in anything. He has no legitimate friends because he feels like everyone bullies him. He refuses to consider that he contributes to the end of any relationship. Is it common for someone with ADHD to always be a victim? I feel like he never accurately assess anyone elses point of view, especially mine. I'm exhausted. He can be so mean. He's either really happy (which gives me anxiety because anything can change that on a dime) or he's really angry and depressed.

My mother in law and step daughter came down for the weekend, and it was awesome to see them.  I am SUPER lucky in that I adore my Mother in Law... like for real.  She is a total soul mate :-D.  I often joke that I married my husband just to have her and my step daughter in my life, and that is not far from the truth.

I have been trying hard to be positive and focus on keeping myself above the waves of emotion.  But today - I am just so FRUSTRATED!