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I stumbled across a blog. today of a young lady who has in her words, "full blown" adhd. As I read what she had written I knew right away about her struggles...What she say's is real, and it's the hope I've held onto for 8 years.  If My wife could have said these things to me in the beginning, I think our lives would have been so much better. If she could speak openly and peacefully now (without the chip, and anger) it would change our lives. Maybe some day she will, I still have hope! And if I could thank this Young lady for encouraging me in my hope, I would love to....

Married who I thought would be the love of my life back in 2013... And recently just finding out (his mom finally told me last Dec 26th 2015) he has ADD, my world crashed...

I've just recently started reading some of these posts of about being married to someone with ADHD and the struggles others are experiencing.  So many stories hit close to home for me and I feel better knowing that it's not just me and that I'm not crazy.  But, I'm worried about remaining strong for my kids, and my husband, when 40% of my household has ADHD.

Since my marriage took a turn for the worse last year, the one refrain that keeps coming up a lot from my wife is that she's "done trying" and it's up to me to show that I can put in the effort. I can understand why she'd be at the end of her rope, and I try to put across that I hear that and respect that. So it's on me to make my own goal list and start kicking some butt, right? But it puts me in knots to read about things the non-ADHD spouse could and should do to help save the relationship, like:

I'm sure this is not going to be new ground here on this forum but it is certainly new to me and i'm so upset, confused and have no idea where to turn for help.

She: What do you think about _________?

He: What do you mean?

She:  What is your opinion about it?

He: What is yours?

She: I think it seems to me that _____________.  That is what I think about it.

He: no words

She: Well?

He: What?

She What do you think about ____________?

He:  I doesn't matter, You just told me what you think. You don't care about what I think about it.

She:  I asked you what you think about it because i DO care.  I am interested in how you feel about it.

My husband has ADHD and an addictive personality. He used to self-medicate many years ago with pills and alcohol but cleaned his act up and tries VERY hard to keep his crap together. He makes all of his appointments, etc. with no nagging. When he was originally prescribed adderall it was awesome. It worked for him, I could see the difference clearly and he was practically crying tears of joy. But then be became addicted. I tried everything from hiding his pills, to keeping them in a locked box to keeping them at a friends house.

Hey all. I've been married to my husband who has ADHD for almost 11 yrs. Its been a rollercoaster to say the least, and from what I've read on this forum (I'm new here) you guys all know all about that particular ride. Which I am so sorry for, for you and your spouses both. I love my husband dearly and would not consider divorce unless he became violent, which he never has. Our main issues are 1: he ignores me. 2: He works incredibly hard, but is incredibly irresponsible with his money. And 3: I feel like I am dating every single person he knows. Like we are in a 50-way relationship.