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My husband left for work one day and hasn't been home in over a year. I belive his Undealt with  adhd is to blame, along with his poor choices.  To make a long story short, he was out drinking with his buddies playing with what he thought was a bb gun and ended up accidently  shooting and killing his best friend. I was left alone with out 5 year old son to pick up the pieces and am now a single parent. I fully support him, and just revived my book in the mail. The adhd effect on marriage.

How do you talk to a person about their ADHD without simultaneously tearing them down?

How do you say,

"You need medication."

"You need counseling."

"You need to receive treatments."

without also implying,

"You're not good enough."

"You need to change."

"You're defective."

He said this morning, "Do you want to start the day with a funny joke?" with a volume too loud for first thing in the morning.

I looked at him and said, "Sure!" in the same volume he came in with.

"What." he said same volume.

"What." I said same volume.

He looked at me like I had slapped him and walked away like a spanked puppy.

Response, response, assumptions, bad feelings.

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I fell in love with my husband nearly 10 years ago, in large part, due to his of his earnestness, sweetness, and frankly, his willingness to make a commitment to me long-term.

I researched ADD on my own and sought joint counseling early on. Later, I sought individual counseling as I tried very hard to understand our unique dynamics and gain skills to better aid both of us.

It's been nearly a decade, and I must admit, that this is not at all what I signed up for!!

Hi everyone, it is my first time posting here. I've been reading many of your posts and they have helped tremendously. Here is my story I'm the nonADHD partner.

This is one of my favorite stories that my therapist told me quite some time ago, that I have recalled countless times to help me see my way through times when I didn't know what to do?  It is a story of perspective, and I thought I would share it with everyone because it has been so useful for me to gain some perspective when I really needed it.  Without further adieu.....

I'm not saying that anyone else's life or situation is like mine but maybe other people can relate or maybe it will give a new perspective? I don't know. I hope this is helpful. I'm still FAR from perfect and have A LOT of work on but I'm so much happier in my life now so I just wanted to share a bit of my story with you all. I am 25-year-old (F)  who has been with my ADHD partner (M) for 10 years.