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For five years I've been married to an add (hyperfocus), and NVLD man. It's the same old story as many of you have posted. I do everything, decide everything, become everything. He is a loving person underneath all of the disorders. I know he loves me and our daughter. But when is love not enough? When do the disorders become the way we are living life, and not the love? Someone on this site referred to my job as his wife correctly as the "ceo" of our family. He's always been good about holding a job-even though he's been through many, he's always worked.

If you are a people pleaser and have a spirit to serve others unless you are also very wise, you may be an easy target for a person who seeks Co-dependency and is skilled at manipulation and Control...I'm not saying all who live in this mind do it intentionally or are even totally aware of their intrusive life style...But, the reality and effect on others is the same non the less...

I have read several threads and commented on a few. I have bought all the books, and have read them all. Hubby has read some but doesn't see himself in any of the examples. He has been diagnosed with ADHD (not hyper though) and took the meds for three days. He said they were too much and didn't go back to the doctor. Side effects of racing heart. So that was almost a year ago.

I'm new on here and have been reading many, many of the posts and getting a lot from most of them.

I think that Melissa’s class would help my husband and me in our relationship and marriage, but I somehow don’t see him agreeing to spend the $289 or doing the work that would be required to make it successful. I’m pretty sure he does have a severe “case” of ADHD even without an “official” diagnosis.

When the children were young and now with our grandchildren, I now see that ADD may be playing a part in an activity that was irritating to me but I didn't know what it was.  Now I am seeing that he acts like a child when he is with children.  He is the roughest, loudest, most baby-talkish of the group.  He squeels and giggles and things ALWAYS get out of hand with someone ending up crying.  Then H stomps off saying it wasn't his fault and that I am crazy for being concerned.  I must decide each time how much I can tolerate.

I have ADHD!!!

The impact on my marriage has been devastating, in fact it may have killed it completely. The Jury is still out right this moment but this being the fourth time my wife has asked me for a divorce the odds are not in my favor and honestly they are pretty slim.

I know without doubt that I truly love my wife with all my heart and everything I am.

Hello Everyone,

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I ran across this article and thought it did a really good job of answering one of those questions that keeps being asked here on this forum........why?

by Allan N. Schwartz, PhD

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https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/behavior-disorders-learning-your-diagno...