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I recently learned about a "neuro-pschologist" in our hometown and asked H if he wanted to see him.  H agreed.  When making the first appt (which will be next week), the office recommended that H see a psychiatrist first to get his meds under control.  Today H saw the psychiatrist.  Yay.   The last time H saw a psychiatrist was when he was in rehab, and H was very dishonest at that time.  

I have a question to ask.

My 25th wedding anniversary is fast approaching. My relationship with my wife has been crap for the past 2-3 years. I have initiated marriage counseling, but my wife refuses to go. She thinks it's nobody elses business but ours. My wife is VERY controlling. I'm willing to make changes and she isn't. She thinks I'm the one with the problem, not her.

Am I in the right for refusing to plan a party for the occation, or am I just being an ass?

Hello All,

Context: I am the non-ADD spouse.  My husband has been diagnosed, after much resistance, with ADD and was on medication for approximately 2 years.  He went off of his medication about 6 months ago because of increased anxiety.  He didn't tell me.  I thought he was moving into early Alzheimers, very worried and scared.  Lots of increased anger in the relationship from both sides. His side: Increased forgetfulness, inability to stay on task, very long hours at work (1 job)  to accomplish the job.

I don't need this forum any more guys. I finally know the truth, but thanks for being there for me. My husband FINALLY admitted to me this morning, that he's been in love with someone else ALL THESE YEARS. His old college flame. They talk every once in a while. NEVER LIVED TOGETHER. We are separating and getting divorced. I'm going to live with my daughter. He's been living a LIE all these years on TOP of the ADHD. I am relieved to know I can TOTALLY stop obsessing about ALL THIS JUNK now. He's never been IN LOVE with me, he admits. Well, what about that?

Hello all. I have been browsing through this site for awhile now, and have finally decided to post. 

My boyfriend (33) and I (31) have been dating since March of this year. Shortly into the relationship he had to move 700 miles away for work. Because of hyper-focus, we were able to make it work, and then I moved there with him in August. We have been living together since. 

Some of you may be experiencing "The Marble Game" with your partners.

Imagine that you and your partner each had 100 marbles at the beginning of your relationship...when you first met.  Each time, one of you "loses" an argument or is seen to be the "less knowledgeable person," that person has to give their spouse a marble.

Over time, especially early in the relationship, the mentally-unhealthy person had to "give" you lots of marbles...one at a time...each time he/she was shown to be wrong, or he/she forgot something, or he/she screwed up in some way.

Hello!

My partner (I am a lesbian) of 3 years was diagnosed with ADHD & Generalized Anxiety Disorder. She has not yet started medication or treatment yet but will soon! I am 32 and she is 30.

I am trying to come up with some different ways of dealing with her moods.