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ADHD in a non-ADHD world

Iv'e been doing research and lurking these forums for months. What better way to hear the unspoken truth about ADHD? The suffering of so many people makes the reality painfully obvious. There is no happy ending with ADHD. It's almost impossible for someone with ADHD to be successful, life is always a struggle, in almost everything. Basic living is hell. What kind of life is that, for anyone to live, or associate with? It isn't happy for anyone.

Reality Is Stranger Than Fiction..or..Hotdogs and Handgrenades

I wanted to share some more of my expereince in going on a short vacation with my wife, her brother, her friend (Dee for difficult) and myself at the beach over a long weekend.  For those who have not read my already leangthy account of my wife's freind (I am calling Dee)...you can go and look up my recent post that I made that gives more details of this person and what I observed about her (and the problems we all faced with her) while we were all staying together and communing so to speak and just trying to get along. 

there is absolutely no way to justify this behavior

I am 90% certain my soon-to-be ex has ADHD.  Our daughter was diagnosed, years ago.  There is evidence of the anger and anxiety that seem to go along with ADHD, in him.  All the hints were there for him to be self-aware of his ADHD (i.e. hello?  your daughter has been diagnosed?) but his ego was too big for him to have any self-awareness.  He had an affair and now wants a divorce.

The need to be nurtured vs "I am not wired that way"

"Just accept it and move on", "do you", "lower your expectrations". What are these? All things I preach about to myself and others when you don't get what you signed on for from your spouse that has ADHD. Yesterday, the other girl showed up, the one that is still human and wants to be nurtured. I send him the usual text in the morning that has to do with something domestic, his reminder, "please deposit the weekly money into the account" since he won't do a recurring deposit. Never get a response. In fact, I never get any communication all day, no text, call, nothing.

Compatibility and commonality should out weigh emotion.

People spend a lots of money after the marriage has been consummated in an effort to quote "Get along". Why not do the work prior to getting to close to another person. Which, my guess, 

drops your ability to make an educated choice by any where from 20% to 95% depending on your make up.

Since people or all different it is probably better to have an idea of what type person you match up with the best, so you goal of a workable and satisfying marriage relationship want be hindered by so many differences...

Boyfriend wants to keep looking just in case

My boyfriend of 1 yr (we're in our 40s) wants to keep searching just in case he finds a woman who might give him instant "in love" feelings. He says he wants to make sure he doesn't make a mistake by not continuing to look in case our relationship isn't the one. We have a great relationship otherwise...good communication, deep talks, romance, loving eye contact, great physical intimacy, honesty, and a lot in common. He says he loves me and wants us to be together but still wants to keep looking "just in case"

Is it ADHD or Schizophrenia?

My husband was diagnosed fairly recently with ADHD, but upon speaking with a friend, we somehow arrived at an idea that perhaps schizophrenia was a more apt label. We looked at each other horrified and upon looking up symptoms of disorganized and simple schizophrenia, it seems to fit, especially with a peak age of 25 (he's 28 now, and things have gotten considerably worse over the years). However, a lot of the symptoms overlap. If there's been psychosis (hallucinations), I haven't been told about it, but my husband is very closed off from me and others.

His anger is getting the best of me.....

I'm new here, been reading for a long time but this is my first time posting. I'm in a similar situation as most of the other stories I've read. My husband of 18 years has been on medication for ADD for 5 years and has recently been diagnosed with Depression. Although he does take his medication he's been in denial about both and prefers to blame every problem in his life/our life together on me or take it out on me, it depends on the day.

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