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My boyfriend has ADHD and like everyone else, I had no idea until the sweet, attentive man I moved in with turned into the completely opposite. It's 4 years later and now he spends every single weekend going out with new "friends" he's made in the neighborhood. I am never invited. I've been told that I "get in the way" of him "making friends" If I walk up to the bar and he's there, he will literally leave. He stays out until 2, 3 even 4 in the morning. Every other weekend, he drinks until he vomits. I also suspect he may be snorting coke.

Hi.

I've been living with my ADD boyfriend for 4 months.  I had no idea he had ADD until he moved in - like everyone on here, it seems.

We were working towards marriage, in fact, he bought an engagement ring.  But, we've been fighting so much lately, he hasn't proposed.  No problem there, honestly, as I didn't want to make a commitment, after what I'd seen.

Like everyone else on here, he has an abundance of wonderful qualities.  But, his bad ones, all ADD-related, have gotten to be too much to bear.

Monday will be my 30th wedding anniversary.  Regulars here know my story; suffice it to say that my husband deserted me and has irretrievably broken the relationship.  My emotions don't allow me to ignore the anniversary but I'd like to do something positive (and inexpensive), easy or challenging, to mark the day (one I don't feel fondly about) but also to mark my resolve to keep going on my own.  Any thoughts?

Okay everyone--reality check here.  DH and I got into a BIG argument this morning.  Here's the deal--we see a marriage counselor on Fridays at 5:30 when he is in town.  We have not been able to see the counselor with any regularity because of how much DH travels for business and we really need it!  So it's been three weeks since we have seen the guy AND YET...  Our oldest son is a JV water polo player (sophomore) and he is really good so this evening the coach put him on the varsity team.  That is huge.  It's at a school about 40 minutes away.

I don’t know if I am writing this for advice or for someone to share my pain…….I simply can’t see my future anymore.  I so crave happily ever after and for so many years have just lived day to day, hour to hour.  I wish I had a magic wand to fix it all ….

I am married for over 10 years to an ADHD Biopolar man.  My hubby found out 3 years ago.  I would like to give you a brief history and seek your advice.  Truthfully I am trying to answer the following questions and hope that your experience can guide me:

Do I stay with my husband for my child to be happy?

My partner is an adult in her 40's and has diagnosed ADHD.

She is on meds (ritalin generic) and wants to have a baby. I have to do most of the housework as she either can't concentrate, sees it as beneath her or is just lazy, the effect is the same though, I have to do it. . I despair at the thought of all the work that having a baby entails knowing that she will probably do less and I will have to do most of it.

She is hugely argumentative and drinks far too much. I am thinking that if she shouts any more and points her finger at me I will say enough, you're dumped.

I have been dating an ADHD guy for 6 months. He was diagnosed 6 years ago, in his late 20s. Since then he took Ritalin from time to time, like when he has an interview, etc. A month ago, he started Adderall, at 10mg a day, but he only took it on “as needed” basis (not the doctor’s order) – i.e. whenever he needs to give a presentation at work. On the days that he does need to give a presentation, he usually stays up all night to prepare, pops a pill in the morning then during lunch.

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I am new here and this is my first post. I am the non-ADHD partner. My partner of one year is not diagnosed (and he has an aversion to most things in the realm of psychology that involves a diagnosis) but I have suspected for some time he has ADD. I am hoping that I might be able to get some insight by posting some information about our current situation as many of the posts I have read here have been really helpful and have felt like they are hitting really close to home.

Recently, I asked my husband if it appears to him that I move like lightning.  Meaning, is he ever in awe of how fast I take care of things, how fast I can clean a bathroom, how I can go to the grocery store and back in less than an hour with food for the week purchased? (not just a gallon of milk).  And he said YES!  This is not a hateful slam on him....it was just really nice to see that he sees me.  I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for him to not be able to do that.  I am really working on understanding it from his side.

We have come to a point (40 years of marriage) where we cannot talk to each other any more. I can barely look at him anymore. I look at him and see all the times he ignored me and hurt my feelings and manipulated me...maybe it was all unintentional but it still affects a person to be so un-valued and demeaned.  It is said we should NOT take other people's actions or even words personally.  I tried to do that on a daily basis for 40 years.  You know what happens when you stuff your real feelings and think you are strong enough to rationalize in neglectful, hurtful situations?