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Ok im going to try to keep this brief.

I don't know if this is an ADHD issue or what. But you all have experience that I don't have, so I'm hoping you have some advice.

my ADHD boyfriend and I just got into a fight. He seems to think its ok for couples to curse at each other. Jokingly, angrily, whatever. But if I get angry and accidentally curse at him, which I immediately regret, he's SO offended and SO hung up on it. 

I posted my story in another thread and keep coming here looking for help and answers.  I am not seeing much in the way of hope, or happy endings.  Is anyone aware of marriages that make it back to happy?  I am so scared right now that it's not possible.

These are my stories too.  My husband must have ADHD.  For 30, yes thirty, years,  I have lived with a man who has lost job after job and can't explain why.  We are currently suffering financially because his job situation just continues to get worse due to his lack of focus and organization.  He can't carry out simple tasks because he gets distracted doing others.  He never remembers anything I tell him and it makes me feel like he just doesn't care.  In the beginning of our marraige, he was so focused on me but lost that focus and now we barely communicate.

I'd like to know how many other people with spouses who have ADHD, have this issue:  Work vs. them ONLY doing things they "want" to do......and even combining the two. I'll use an example. My husband has hyperactive ADHD, and I also believe there are co-morbid conditions, but not sure which ones yet. He's always been on the go......nonstop......even when he's "WORKING". BUT, most of his "work" (the work he does in his office at home) is stuff he invents and "makes up" to do. It's not work that MUST be done.

Our kids avoid their dad as much as they can.  H knows this and blames me.  

Our kids have repeatedly told him, "our opinions about you are based on what we've witnessed and experienced".   But H won't accept that.  He wants to believe that I "turned the kids against him."   

The kids can rattle off dozens and dozens of stories where their dad behaved horribly, embarrassed them, or was cruel to me.   But, H won't accept that.  

He still blames me.

http://www.theblaze.com/contributions/adhd-definitely-doesnt-exist-but-i...

I've been reading through some of the posts on the forum and I can't help but find myself feeling as though I've been slapped in the face!  I see others feeling/experiencing/dealing with all of the same things I've been experiencing/feeling/dealing with!  I just want to say thank you God, I am not alone -- for the longest time I have felt utterly alone in this turmoil.

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