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So my husband is ADHD even though he hasn't been formally diagnosed. He knows it, I know it, there is no question.

He works from home and has a great job in sales, spends a lot of time on the phone, but also has decent down time as well. Slow days to watch tv, browse the internet etc, while a lot of very nonstop days on sales calls, and the occasional meeting he travels to in his territory.

We have been married almost 20 years and have three teenagers. I love my husband very much.  Even though we've both always had to work (isn't that mostly everyone today?), he's always done his part with work and contributing to the expenses (usually more than me). He was very much unlike my Dad and was very quiet and humble, I suppose that's part of what I found attractive.  

This is my first post, I was diagnosed with ADD as a child and was put on Ritalin around the age of 9 and had bad side effects with mood while on it.  My parents took me off of it and I went through life until I was about 28 when I talked with my doctor and got put on Adderall, I had depression issues with it and added Citalipram to deal with the depression side effect.  I met my wife about a year later and have been married for about 4 years now with two beautiful daughters.

I have heard some spouses mention that their spouses have a "severe" or "extreme" case of ADHD.  And, some have said that their spouse's doctor has used those words.  What do they MEAN?   What are the specifics that "take it to extreme"?

I just came across this site, and SO many things hit home with me...Like others have said, I feel like I'm reading about my own situation. It's all so eerily similar! Permit me to share some ways in which I related to the other posts. It would do me some good to vent.

Does anybody else feel sad for how they have changed being married to an ADHD person?  It is quite possible I am having a big ol' midlife crisis (I am 44) but lately I think about what I was like 20 years ago and what I am like now.  Of course I would change and grow over 20 years of marriage and life and two kids, but what I thought about the world and my place in it--that is totally different.  I used to think my husband was the man of my dreams--I used to tell him so.  Now I cannot imagine that I ever felt that way.

I know it's a hard holiday for those of us in relationships with people who don't know how to or choose not to show love and compassion.  I hope we all still have a good day.

I am, like many people here, completely at my wits' end.  My wife has every ADHD symptom in the book, or at least one version of it (primarily inattentive type).  I am terrified when she gets behind the wheel of a car.  She stares at her iphone, playing mindless self-medicating games, all day long.  She is as sexually dysfunctional as a rock.   She hums all the time.   She does few chores on time, and if she does, is openly hostile.  She finishes almost nothing.  She is never on time for anything.

Sitting here crying and terrified that my marriage is beyond repair.  The anger I feel towards my husband is overwhelming.  We are both in counseling.  have been married 20 years with two daughters, ages 8 and 5.  The full scope of how his ADD has affected our relationship is finally fully dawning on me.  I am so angry at the toll this has taken on me mentally and physically, I can't even see straight.  The more I learn about this, the more angry I become.  We used to be the envy of everyone...the most romantic, kind, fun couple anyone knew.  People used to tell me all the time how lucky I