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Guess what H did yesterday?? Absolutely nothing!

Tue Dec 30th, 2014 - 10:54am by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

Arrgh! It makes me so ANGRY! He said he was going to take the cat to the vet and call and electrician. He didn't even step outside to get the mail! I come home to the kitchen garbage overflowing, the kitchen recycle bucket overflowing, dirty dishes sitting on the counter rather than the dishwasher, the cats wanting to be fed all while he's in the computer room playing his damn video game that he has no doubt been playing nonstop all day! Oh and I just love the one thing he always does. He'll turn on the furnace and then within 10 minutes open up windows so the cats can smell the outside!

Couples Counselor and Coach - Should they be two different people?

Tue Dec 30th, 2014 - 10:12am by Fox_Paws

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Support for the ADHD Partner

I am very fortunate to live in a city where there are two ADHD-focused counselors who do both ADHD coaching and couples therapy around ADHD. I know that for traditional therapy, your personal therapist should be separate from your marriage counselor. Do you think that goes for ADHD coaches too, or is coaching different enough from traditional therapy that it doesn't matter? I already have a mental health therapist that will remain separate from the coaching piece, so I don't anticipate my coach becoming my mental health therapist.

I am SO glad to be back at work after a LOOOONG 5 days at home with H!

Mon Dec 29th, 2014 - 11:24am by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I have never known anyone to do absolutely nothing on a 10 day break! My husband is on day 6 of his break and he has not done one thing. The only thing he accomplishes is napping, eating, drinking, watching tv and playing video games. And the thing is, I can tell he is absolutely bored but he won't do anything about it. He went to bed at 6PM on Christmas because he was "tired of sitting at the computer and in front of the tv". I had 5 days in a row off and in that time we could have taken day trips or gotten some projects done around the house.

Helping outsiders understand what non-ADHD spouses experience

Sun Dec 28th, 2014 - 1:19pm by 927red

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Negotiation and Setting Boundaries

Hi! I'm new to this site. My husband has been recently diagnosed with ADHD. We have been married for 10 years and have one child. Since my husband is in the early stages of treatment, his symptoms are currently under treated and we are in the throes of dysfunction. We love each other and are committed to doing the best we can to make our life happier. We are both in therapy individually as well.

Another Christmas and birthday goes by without recognition from H!

Sun Dec 28th, 2014 - 12:36am by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

So another Christmas and birthday with no recognition from my husband. I always tell him I don't want anything for Christmas (because I really don't want THINGS) and I tell him to just take me out for a nice night. He said "Well I plan on doing that for your birthday, which is the day after Christmas, but what do you want for Christmas?" He says it's not fair that he told me what he wanted but I wont' tell him. finally I sit down and I come up with some things for him. All experiences, like concerts, plays, spa gift card, night at a nice resort and I show him the list.

delusions of grandeur--someone explain this to me

Sat Dec 27th, 2014 - 4:20pm by dvance

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

Okay, someone HAS to explain this one to me.  In the 20 years I have been with DH, virtually every job he has had he has described in the same way: he is the ONLY one there who knows anything, he is the only one who knows what's going on in the company, thank goodness they hired him because otherwise who knows what would have happened, no one else in the company has any clue...  You get the idea.  And yet, he has been fired twice in the past three years and it took him a solid year to find another job this time.  So how does that compute?

A Christmas Message

Thu Dec 25th, 2014 - 2:50pm by Standing

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Progress You are Making and Hope

For everyone here...  I feel that I don't have much to say at this forum any more, since my spouse's issue, as has been diagnosed, is not really add, but actually a personality disorder.

In all honesty, I suspect that is the case with many of the "add" folks being discussed here, and I have so much empathy for you all! 

My own course of action was to release all control over the situation, since that control was only an illusion, at best. I stepped away from the madness and filed for legal separation.

We agree and accept he has ADHD. Now what?

Thu Dec 25th, 2014 - 8:28am by ally012

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

My husband and I have been married for 6 years.  He adopted my 2 kids in 2011.  Like most couples we have had our ups and downs.  Both of us were married previously.  I have 2 kids, he has 1.  Our individual history is very complicated and confusing.  But, basically, I have been in therapy for almost 2 years.  I am working through Complex PTSD, Dissociative Depersonalization Disorder & Major Depression.  My first marriage lasted for 11 years and was abusive.  My kids do remember some of the abuse; they are 13 & 15 today.  My current husband has been supportive to the best of his abi

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