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I am new here and to ADHD.  I'm feeling really lost and am losing hope.  My husband was diagnosed with ADHD 2 months ago.  He is seeing a psychologist, who specializes in ADHD, once a week.  Of course I never thought that there would be any big changes happening this soon, but I am incredibly worried about his lack of follow-through.  I would have to say that is the biggest issue for me.  I've learned to live with him not finishing chores around the house, forgetting to pay bills, etc. (I have taken over our finances because of that).

So my husband (been living together for two years) has a TON of music gear. Guitars, amps, drums, mixers, you name it, he buys it. I have a special room for his gear, so seeing it around the house isn't an issue (although his other messes...different story all together). I love that he loves playing music, and he's a splendid musician... It's just, he spends ALL of his money on it, and complains when our rent is due, cries when he has to pay bills, complains about being broke. All. The. Time. I should never have agreed to marry him until his finances were in order.

I can't think of one more thing I can do on my end to support my DH. 

My girlfriend and I have been dating for three months now and she told me from the beginning that she suffers from ADHD. She does not currently take any medications or seek any counseling/therapy. The biggest issue is she blames all of her shortcomings on ADHD, which I don't disagree with but it seems to be hurting our once amazing relationship. I am hoping that by stating our issues on here someone may be able to chime in with similar stories or advice that may help. 

 

Hi everyone, I'm new here and I really need some support. I normally wouldn't lay my life out like this but I can't continue on like this... My husband and I have had problems for years. We've always known he has ADHD, but I never understood how much ADHD can impact a marriage until I found information on this site about 6 months ago. Everyone loves my husband and thinks hes the most amazing man on the planet, so when he suggested our problems were all my fault i just accepted it. Now, he's finally medicated (but still thinks i am the problem) and nothing is changing.

I am currently reading Melissa's book and finding it enlightening. I identify with many situations described there. However, both my spouse and I have ADHD, so the problems we're facing seem much more complex. Has anyone else approached this 6 step process from the same situation? Do I need a different resource, or can I adapt these methods to fit for my wife and me?

 

We're currently separated, but hoping to find our way back to each other. Any advice would be appreciated.

 

I have been working a lot these past few weeks on sorting out life stuff.  Liz's stuff.  What Liz sees.  What Liz does in response.  Focusing on what Liz can overlook, and what is just no longer acceptable.  Liz is Non-ADHD.  Believe me, there were a few times I started to wonder,  but, nope.  No ADHD.   My spouse had a full diagnostic study at the Cleveland clinic.  On their scale, their spectrum of a 1 - 10 severity,  my spouse is between 9 and 10.  And living with that, undiagnosed for 50+ years, he has developed a complex life system to accommodate and protect himself.

My husband has never been treated for his ADHD. There for he never writes anything down and consequently never remembers anything. He is not willing to try. When he is questioned he just remains silent or becomes aggressive. What am I meant to do? I am in a wheelchair you have no choice but to book transport 24 hours in advance you cannot wait til the day and decide to travel. You have to plan in advance. This seems impossible for my husband. I know it untreated ADHD but how can I cope with his spontaneous if the world want wheelchairs to book in advance?!