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Greetings all!
First time on here… in fact, new to realizing I have ADHD.
At 43 years old, I seem at first rather successful in life – good career, winning competitor in several (and strangely unrelated) disciplines, lots of wonderful friends, community/charity involvement, beautiful wife and children, big house etc.
Sounds great, right? Well for example…
Oiy. Holding the responsibility for holding the financial bag has got to end. Somehow. Wisely. With out stupidity on my part. But with a firmly laid out plan THAT I WILL FOLLOW TO EXTRICATE MYSELF FROM THIS BONDAGE.
My spouse just called from Wal-Mart. He had gotten an RCA tablet for his birthday last month. As a gift. About $150.00. A few days ago the power switch stopped working. I called RCA. They will replace it if we pay the shipping to return it. So, we thought we would first try taking it back to Wal-Mart.
I have a reached a tipping point in my relationship and I fear that unless some changes happen, and happen soon, that my marriage will soon be over.
Some quick background info:
My husband and I have been married for 9 years (together for 10). When we met I was a divorced mom with 2 boys - ages 4 and 6. My husband-to-be was a batchelor.
How many times because of either denial, unconcern, inability to hear (no matter the reason) have words destroyed peaceful moments for you? I have come to realize my trouble is me in every instance...First, to share with words, someone has to care to listen, and do it...How many times have I tried to press into a closed mind with words that wasn't desired, nor under no circumstances going to be heard, yet I continued. Too many!...How many times have I not wanted or wasn't able to receive truth about myself because I was blind to it?
My husband gets impatient and tense over, omg, an endless numbers of things. He is sort of Jekyll and Hyde bc he's not a mean guy - he is sweet and caring and tries to do his best with me - but just, like there are frequent circumstances where he is tense/tired/hungry/trying to focus and can't, etc., where he has a very very short fuse.
Hi everyone,
Hey everyone - so i ended up on this site like a year ago when a therapist of mine mentioned to me in passing that she thought my husband was ADHD just based on some of the anecdotes about him I shared....i didnt really ever look up what ADHD was or anything so once I did after that, i was totally floored how uncanny the traits were, and I also found this site.
My husband has acted miffed in the past when i tell him that he is ADHD, even when i have described many things to him and he HAS to know that is way too many of his traits for it to be BS.
I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to give me a kiss and I tell him that he shouldn't kiss me because I'm getting a scratchy throat and most likely a cold and his response isn't one of sympathy, instead it's "Greeeeeeat! That's just great! Now I'm going to get sick! Thanks a lot!" And that was just with a scratchy throat. The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100°. I sit on the couch and tell him I've got a fever. Once again I get "That's great!
My 20 year old wants to change her degree in college from Business to Art; she is a good if not great artist but we all know most artist are "starving" artists.
My 20 year old has been diagnosed with ADDHD by a Psychiatrist; would an art career be a solid profession for someone with ADDHD?
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