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Hi all, I'm new here.  My husband is in the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD.  A little background: we've been married 6 years, just had our 2nd child 3 weeks ago.  He moved out when I was 3 months pregnant and just moved back in about a month ago (yes, our relationship has gotten that bad) - this was the third time while pregnant that he said that's it, he was leaving.  I said fine, leave - my prioirity needs to be safety and stability for me and the kids.  I am exhausted from overfunctioning to compensate for his ADHD symptoms.  I am emotionally done.  Burnt out.

My husband was diagnosed with ADD 3 years ago.  He has gone his whole childhood and on his 3 marriage and just found out he has it.  It wasn't until 2 months ago that I realized we needed to get really real with this condition.  Our marriage has been a nightmare for 11 years.  It is amazing what we are learning about the condition and how everything that has happened has been all because of his ADD.  It is all making so much sense now.  He is still taking it all in  and everyday gets better with him accepting he has it.  We are now working on putting together a treatment plan for him so thi

One of my biggest problems with my husband, who I suspect has ADHD, is that when I express annoyance for something he's done that I think I have good reason to be annoyed by, he just gets angry at me for it rather than apologizing and owning up to it. I guess it's the defensiveness/denial at play, but it makes me question myself so much and I can't decide if I'm being too hard on him or if he's being manipulative.

I'm hoping that you can give me some ideas on how you might best respond to this little chronic issue I am having.

My husband sets the alarm clock to go off early, same time each day. We don't need to get up at that time, but one out of 10 or 12 times, he does, to go in to work early.

The other 9-11 times, he shuts it off and returns to sleep.

Returning to sleep is not an option for me. It takes him so long to turn it off that I am Up by then.

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I'm having a very difficult time with my adhd at home and in general. I find that I'm only likeable in small doses and only when I don't do alot of talking. I used to love being social and would crave people's approval but in the last couple of years I have been very withdrawn. Me and my wife recently moved and I don't know anyone. If I have a problem I only have her to turn to, and if we are having a fight I have no one to turn to. I just feel so alone yet I'm afraid to talk to anyone. I'm just going to disappoint any new friends I make. Just feel so isolated.

My husband has ADHD, and is a medical professional...and I have PTSD. I love this man with my whole heart, and am sure he feels the same. However, it became impossible to live together...so we are separated. It's been two months...I'm 600 miles away. What complicated things even further, is I have serious medical issues (two strokes within a year, brain lesions...and on and on). I spent almost 30 years going back an forth overseas across four continents. If there was war, famine, genocide, disease...this is where I could be found.

I forgot how helpful..and scary..this site can be. If I am to stay, and not want to run away from my husband, I need to find a middle ground. I thought maybe it would help to get things into perspective..

I feel that my husband is as deserving of love as I am. He is a child of God and deserves love and respect...even when his behavior doesn't earn it.