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Firstly, my wife can forget sex for weeks and weeks. That alone is enough to make me just not like sex with her, but I get it and am trying to live with being invisible to her.

   After 28 years of marriage my wife was diagnosed with ADHD last year. She found your book and started to read it (lol). A little while later she insisted that I take an online test because she said I was exhibiting signs of ADHD myself. Upon completion, with the answers I gave, it more or less said I was boarder line. After years of not knowing,and reading your book,thru ups and downs,(almost a divorce,and I know by all means I have not always been prince charming) I was glad to find out that I was not the only one Angry and Frustrated with what seems to be her non caring disposition.

I am in the midst of playing hooky. I called in sick to work for 2 days, I told my SOON TO BE EX  that I had to travel for work, I got coverage for my kids and I'm spending the 2nd of 2 glorious days alone. No one is telling me I left this out, forgot to do this, neglected that... I needed to remove myself from my undiagnosed possible-add hubby. I am the daily subject of his negativity- but I'm the one with a job, pension, savings and career. This divorce is taking way too long and is affecting my health- Crohn's disease, shingles, anxiety. These 2 days have been bliss.

My wife and I were plagued with the issues I guess, are typical to the ADHD partners. Both she and I though it was madness developing in the tightest coils in my mind. The poised intent of my undiagnosed, and ultimately insufficiently managed ADHD conspired to make our home terrifying and unpleasant. For months after our marriage I did not want to go home and she didn't particularly want to receive me. It wasn;t a lack of love, that poured over the windowsills, it was the pall of a pattern that hung over every task in the household.

So, I got duped by hyperfocus husband. My own husband said "I feel like I tricked you". I don't know if I'll ever get over that betrayal. All I know is that my real husband has qualities that I don't even like to be around. I can't be around miserable, negative people. They drag me down without having to say a word. He won't change. He won't change. He will never change. He's not like me. He has no reason to be the way he is, he just is. He has so much to be happy about, but he is just him. Negative and thinks the world owes him. I can't change him. His son can't change him. 

In the 3 months I've known my boyfriend it's become increasingly apparent that he probably has ADHD. Whoever here said ADHD people think of time in terms of "now" and "not now" helped me a great deal. Just saw him again after being out of touch nearly a month, during which I was a mess, wondering whether he was gone for good. He was just busy and we're fine.

I have ADD. I am currently engaged and together we have been trying to work together to be the best we can be. The goal is to build a strong healthy relationship. As with any couple, fights occur and disagreements happen. I am medicated and I am in counseling attempting to minimize the damage I cause to the relationship. I stumbled across this website looking for ideas, input and in general help about actively and successfully communicating with my partner. Unfortunately, at least in this particular forum, I seem to have ran into a a lot of negative viewpoints.

My bf texted me Saturday morning that he drove up to his family's lake house 8 hours away and would not be helping me move the next day. He was acting distant for a couple days before. I have known him for 8 years and we have been together for over 3. I just helped him move last month, and I just moved to the same town he's in. Thank God my uncle is such a great person because otherwise it would have been me and my dad. Bf wouldn't pick up the phone when he texted me because he was 'in the car with his family.' He said he would call later and didn't.