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Do your friends and family know about the issues you have with your ADHD spouse?

Tue Aug 12th, 2014 - 11:40am by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I so badly want to tell my mom, sister, friends and coworkers about all the things H does like not going to work, lying about being at work but really just killing time someplace else until I leave for work and then coming home, lying about pretty much everything, not having any money to contribute to bills, etc. but I never have. I only tell everyone about the good things he does. As far as everyone knows we have the perfect marriage and there's not a thing wrong.

how to encourage a spouse or partner to resume treatment

Mon Aug 11th, 2014 - 9:16pm by PoisonIvy

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

My husband, like many of the spouses here, has depression and anxiety along with ADHD.  As far as I know, he's not taking any medication now ("they don't help," his words).  He's not in therapy.  I think he seemed better when on meds and in therapy.  Tonight, the death of Robin Williams is weighing heavily on me.  Any ideas for encouraging a person with untreated mental health issues to get back into treatment?  Thank you.

Identity Diffusion

Mon Aug 11th, 2014 - 9:53am by Standing

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

A quick definition: There is no commitment to a way of thinking and no concern about that lack of commitment.

Combined with ADD:  Picture that lack of an inner core of Who I Am, smothered in a host of defensive behaviors, well practiced, to ward off criticism.

It's a normal stage of development, generally resolved in the teenaged years. I think it's a stage that some ADD simply never gets around to. Too distracted, too... busy fighting off criticism, or self-medicating, or whatever.

Getting through stuff 'together'

Mon Aug 11th, 2014 - 9:25am by Friwi

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I find it difficult to accept a lot of the feedback here.  I'm not religious, so god ain't getting me through this. I also believe in my husband and know full well what he is/isn't capable of. While I concede that ADD impacts on the way we live our lives, as well as accept that, at times, I need to meet him beyond the middle, I have never been the romantic type and I have never expected my husband to fulfill any void in my life. I don't have an unattainable vision of the perfect relationship.

THE LIES, THE LIES, THE LIES!

Mon Aug 11th, 2014 - 8:16am by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I am at the end of my rope! I'd say just about 90% of the stuff that comes out of H's mouth anymore is a story to make him look better! I look at his phone when he's not around and I see the continuous texts to his manager as to why he can't come in. Day after day there's something that JUST happened as to why he can't go in. My car broke down and he has to take me in but in the process of doing that his car broke down and he is stranded at the side of the road waiting on a tow truck.

Could it be Real?

Sat Aug 9th, 2014 - 10:52am by Standing

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

What's up with sudden shifts in reality for ADD?

After about 7 years of battling against what looked like irresponsible, childish behavior, my husband was willing to consider ADD as a possible explanation. At the time, we went together to the general internist and he was given a script for Adderall. At first, it did seem to help. Three years later, that "treatment" is falling horribly short of addressing the issues.

Surprises and behaving like a 10 year old

Fri Aug 8th, 2014 - 7:48pm by copingSAH

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Communication with ADHD

Everytime my ADD spouse brings something into the house to show me, he has it behind his back. It could one item in one hand, another item in the other hand. This whole "reveal" could take several minutes.  This is a crazy way of sharing things... to manipulate the whole timing and how it's presented and making me wait until I'm feeling a bit put off by his behavior, including my loss of interest over the *surprise* item.

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