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My husband and I had an agreement  - a last ditch hail mary to try and save our relationship.  You can read all that junk if you want to have the background:  http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/trying-something-different-one-last-...

My ADHD Husband has cost us a lot of money since he has racked up about 7 parking tickets in the past 2 years. When we first met he didn't know how to drive so he learned to drive since I encouraged him and got his license and then we finally bought a car 2 years ago. In that time, he has been very irresponsible with the car on several occasions.

We both pay for the car, but I don't have my license so only my Husband drives it. Because of that I expect my Husband to be fully responsible when it comes to all the necessary maintenance and making the car payments on time.

The first and last time I posted here was four years ago.  My ADHD-husband wasn't on medication at the time, but had finally agreed to go on Adderall.  That seems like an entire lifetime ago.

"Once I recognized that I LIKED thinking of myself as a noble, self-sacrificing martyr, it was much easier to stop DOING it."

Can I possibly be LIKING this?  Ouch.  Time to change. I am sure there are better things to enjoy doing.

My husband is VERY resistant to doing anything about his ADHD to the point that I just don't bring it up, but he's into health and vitamins. Is there a vitamin or supplement that can help? 

My ADHD spouse was diagnosed 5 years ago. It explained a lot for both of us. He started meds and therapy.

I have been supportive but have not gotten involved in treatment unless I was requested to get involved either by him and/or his therapist. It has not been easy. I know that he has tried different meds and combinations of meds but I do not know what he is taking. He doesn't go to therapy very often - he's too busy he says.

I found a site that is helpful to me to figure out why I let this happen to our marriage and what my part in it is.  This is what happened to me and may be happening to you if you try too hard at a difficult relationship. 

Just read this response in another post, Melissa's  response was in context  to respond to someone with a lot more on their plate due  than ADD spouse to life circumstances.  However reading this left me with questions on the "how to"  after another night  of being recipient of anger/blame behavior from DH with ADD for some minor problem.   The quote is....

my husband sent me links to this site so i could understand his adhd. i have ordered one book and i'm reading lots of the tools and treatments. i have recognised i was being quite nasty to him, although i think most people would say objectively that i put up with a lot.

It seems that my husband doesn't hear the noun in the sentence!  I know this sounds a bit crazy, but this is my life. When he does hear, his interpretation of what was said is not what is said. Yes, he has taken many hearing tests and everything is fine.  At this point he finally agrees that something is wrong, particularly when he hears me say things I've not said. I would like to know if this is all ADHD or is it signs of something else?